Frustrated with Food

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Frustrated with Food
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 4:43pm

I'm reading a sports nutrition book right now. It has some good information, much of which we already know, but it goes into a lot more detail about what foods actually do for our body and what nutrients certain foods provide us with and all of those details. It also has information about what to eat and what to avoid, besides the obvious all things fried.


I have no issues with the book; I have found the book to be very interesting and well written. But it does conflict a bit with some other things I've heard as far as the very best choices as to what to eat, especially in restaurants. I'm trying not to gain back all of the weight it took a while to lose before the weddings this year, with a husband who likes meat, pork especially, and just really doesn't want to see me having a SlimFast or cottage cheese for dinner. He likes me the way I am and would rather I don't "obsess" about food.


The other thing is when we go out. I try to make the best choice, then find out I haven't made the best choice. Then we went to TasteFest on Saturday and had so much fun, but that's all fried food, well not all, but there's no point in pretending that event is diet friendly. We had coconut shrimp, crab cakes, jambalaya, an Indian chicken dish, pineapple fried rice, a couple chili cheese fries...the good thing is that DH and I shared the "taste" size of these things so you get to sample a lot, but you don't eat a meal of all these things.


Anyway, my point in this rant is that, after the weddings in June, I was enjoying life a bit more and watching my diet a bit less strictly. I want to get back watching it very strictly, but I just don't seem to be able to. Life, DH (very well meaning though he is) and my will power all seem to get in the way of good intentions. As a note, I exercise regularly still, because I like that part of it.


Do you ever just get tired of trying to find the perfect balance?


Maybe I should have used the "vent" icon.


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Registered: 04-09-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 5:09pm

Oh gosh do I hear you. Its very hard to find the right balance for me as well. Again my DH is well meaning but often unintentionally makes things a bit harder. I'm torn between not hurting his feelings and just my plain old desire to over eat. You know "Isn't that sweet he brought a brownie cheesecake home! Well heck I guess I should eat it so I don't hurt his feelings." then go on to consume way too much.


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Registered: 12-04-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 5:22pm

Lorie, I hear what you're saying!

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 8:45am

And even more frustrating is to find that what worked in our 20's doesn't seem to work any more!!!

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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 8:58am

DH knows I'm trying to eat well, but our definintions of that are different. He has no concept of the portion thing, which I think would help the situation tremendously. He cooks a ton of stuff on Sundays, then we eat it throughout the week. That's good, but when it's cheese brats, not good. I just had to tell him that I'd rather not eat those all week, so he is. His DS also lives there, and he does eat the leftover meat (ate four burgers in one day a few weeks ago), which is good. I know what you mean about your daughter too; DH's DD is 20 and a bit overweight, but she doesn't live with us. She visits for dinner on Sundays most weeks. DH's

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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 9:48am

This is such

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 10:07am

LOL, I see "Moderation is Key" streaming across your posts often, and I realize that I'm seeing it, and I agree with it. I think maybe it hasn't sunk in yet. I'll have to work on sinking that idea into my life in general.


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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:56am

I can sympathize with you & agree with everything the pp said.

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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 2:25pm

It wasn't too terribly long ago that I did want to be a size 6 again. I just don't think that's doable for me. I have set more realistic goals now that I have lost some weight and realized that I can be a size smaller than I was reasonably, maybe even two, but that next step down to six would be ridiculous. I just don't want to have to feel like I'm a prisoner to what I "can" and "can't" eat, although I do know from the women on mom's side of the family what I'm up against if I don't take my weight and health seriously.


Ah, the balance, such a tough thing to achieve. This is a great place to come when things don't seem to be in balance, for support and for suggestions.


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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 5:54pm

Hmmm, I hear you on the wishful size thinking.

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 6:19pm

"I just don't want to have to feel like I'm a prisoner to what I "can" and "can't" eat"


Amen!!!

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