Frustrated with Myself . . .

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Frustrated with Myself . . .
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 10:59am

Hey ladies, I'm facing a motivation barrier here.

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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 11:15am

I so know how you feel! I think the one thing that gets us down is it seems so hard to see results when there is 10 or 15 lbs left to lose. I've been floating around this 20 lb. margin for, well 3 years, never getting down where I'd like to be and then when I start to get close I just don't maintain it.


Life gets in the way and even doing the SI6 I can see how it throws everything else off kilter in my life which I'm trying to ignore right now! I figure if I stick to it maybe everyone else will eventually adjust to me??? I feel terribly guilty when my youngest cries and fusses for 45 minutes that I do my work out. I'm pissed off at everyone for not stepping up and trying to help out for 45 minutes but then feel bad because they have things do too. I feel bad for being so inflexible about the time I work out but I just I have to do it then or I won't do it. *sigh*


So far not being much help am I.


The thing that I have to think about is that I feel so sh!ty when I let myself down. I start all that negative self talk then wallow in it with food etc. This really doesn't make me feel better just worse and I have to remind myself that even if I hate the work out I hate myself if I don't do it. I have no right to complain about how I look if I'm not willing to do anything about. I'm sure your familiar with the going round and round with yourself over all these issues.


Now this is the pathetic part and it just pi$$ me off. I don't think I've ever felt more unattractive than I do now. Maybe it's because I'm getting older, maybe it's because of all the crap I've been through with DH but I'm just not willing to settle for feeling this way about myself. Think this and the fact that I do have other people here on the board doing SI6 with me are the only things keeping me on track at the moment.


Not much help but I do sympathize with you!!


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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 1:56pm

Um, yeah, I go see a hypnotist. lol. I dunno, I'm with you right now. I'm so sluggish and I know my weight is just making it worse. I don't want to do anything. Bleah. I know this isn't helping you, but thought you'd want to know you're not alone, whine away. lol.


In the past, what worked for me, was breaking my current patterns and starting new ones, and saying "screw everything else". lol. Extreme, but it'd at least work to get me into a new routine.

~IDM
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:14pm

Are we on the same wagon....sounds like it, I think we need to hop off and find the *right* one!!! Seriously, I'm right there with you. I can find lots of things to blame, and I don't have kids so I have to search out others reasons....pathetic.


{I know you and I talked about a September challenge for the board.....how about something to get us up and moving. Nothing much, but just moving- I mean exercising.}


For me I've been also using the 'walked around the mall for 1hr....that has to count, right? I NEED to workout. Period.


Like Gretchen, I don't feel like I'm much help here to you at all, but like Cher I'm sympathizing right along side of you.


Let's get our butts moving!!!

~IslandGirl





School's out for summer!


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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 12:01am
When I get in a slump I have to get more structured. I schedule everything from what time I am going to eat, what I am going to eat, and when I am going to workout. I am a total list person so if it's on my "list" I'll usually do it.

 

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Tue, 08-15-2006 - 6:31pm

I hear you, Miranda. I feel the same lately ... my mom has been visiting and will be here another week, and I allowed this to upset my exercise and eating schedule. I've taken a few walks but nothing more. I've also been eating more sugar! :(


I think I, too, need to add more structure when I'm in a slump. The key for me seems to be to add some structure, but not too much, since I get overwhelmed and "fall off the wagon" if I have too much structure in my day.


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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 9:20am

That's a good point Carrie, like as in setting too many goals to reach. It really goes along with our well used saying here "baby steps".


-Miranda, how's the week going for you?

~IslandGirl





School's out for summer!


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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 9:51am

Just catching up on the board again. I haven't read the other ladies' posts yet, but I am sure they had some good insights to offer. As for me, I went through this thing

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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 10:00am

That's another thing she talked about in the book I mentioned. Setting goals - I like that she said the goal could be as simple as working up to a walk run. But in addition to setting those short term, attainable goals, she also said to set "dream goals" like running a marathon, in the book, or maybe for us here, running a 5k or 10k for charity or doing a charity walk or taking a bike trip or a hiking trip - something more long term.


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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 11:13am

Thanks ladies - the week is, well, it's going.

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Wed, 08-16-2006 - 11:24am
So when are you do to move? Kind of sounds like you need to get the moved whipped and it will be a bit easier to focus on other details like exercise. Not saying to skip exercise all together but I think if you can get the huge thing out of the way which I know will take some time to get out and then get settled at the new place but just getting the biggest part of the headache out of the way will do wonders for you I'm sure.


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