Does your r/ship impede your fitness?

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Does your r/ship impede your fitness?
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Thu, 09-07-2006 - 2:43pm

When I met DF, he was about 45 lbs overweight. I told him outright I was concerned about his weight bc I didn't think he could keep up with me. (I'm a frank, bold person when it comes to what I want in life) He took me for a very intense 3 hr hike. He told me along the way that the only reason he wasn't more active was bc he wanted someone to do it with. After a few months of dating, he lost 25 lbs and I gained 5 lbs. And there we sit for the last 2.5 yrs. I gained the weight for 2 reasons: I stopped doing things like sit ups and push ups while I watch TV (bc I'm shy to do it when he's just sitting on the couch). And I've also started eating much less healthy meals...I hadn't been in a fast food place for YEARS until he'd go and I'd say, "hmm...can you pick me up some fries?" Now that I think of it...its a good thing I've only gained 5 lbs when I think of all the junk I've added to my diet! (I drink cola, eat potatoe chips with my burger at dinner, etc)

Did/does your r/ship have an impact on your fitness goals? (I'm not blaming DF here, its all my choice and my changes!)

Go.

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Thu, 09-07-2006 - 4:17pm

....guess this is where I am lucky to live alone, and to be single ;-)


I can only imagine how difficult it is when there is someone else around. I have a good friend who spends most weekends over here, but we actually do pretty good on the eating thing, as it's just whatever I have around the house, or what I get at the store over the weekend. I think he's just happy to get some good food. LOL

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 5:25pm

This is my biggest struggle and/or excuse.


Feel like I'm slowly but surely gaining momentum. Fitting in exercise without feeling guilty for neglecting other things is hard. I've done pretty good the last six weeks. I have had to suck it up and work out in front of my family. If they screw with me I rip them to pieces or on rare occasions break down into tears and actually it's kind of nice making them feel bad for a change. lol


I have found working out in front of them isn't too horrible now that we all no its something I'm going to do regardless. I also like that my daughters sometimes join me and even just having one to visit with a


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Thu, 09-07-2006 - 7:18pm

I do think it has an impact on you when the health habits of your significant other are different from yours. I'm single now, but in my last relationship my BF was about 30-40 pounds overweight and had pretty awful eating habits (dinner for him was frequently from KFC). I was slimmer when I started that relationship than I am now ... but by the end of that relationship I had gained 10 pounds (in fact, that was the start of putting on the weight I'm still trying to lose!). I'm not blaming him, but I noticed that I started eating a lot more junk food during that relationship than I normally would have. I worried about his health, but in the meantime I didn't notice mine was getting worse (till the relationship was over, that is).


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Fri, 09-08-2006 - 5:29am

It Definately used to.

 

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 8:18am

This really applied to me yesterday. My husband can prety much eat whtever he wants and stay around the same weight, or if he does gain an extra 5-10 pounds he cuts back for a week and drops 5 pounds, his idea of cttung back is having a double double burger instead of a triple. He is supportive of my weight loss and even goes the extra mile in cutting uf fruits and veggies for me to take to work and he has been cooking senisble dinners for me and pickingup the girls from daycare so can head straight to the gym. He usually works weekens whcih makes it easy for me to saty on track eating wise. He had yesterday off and we decided to take the girls to movies. I tooka huge water bottle with me, my husband but a hot dog, a medium tub of popcorn, big drink and candies for the girls. It was torture but I did not have one thing excpet my water. Let me tell you that was so hard, especaially since I was sitting in the middle and they kept passing everyting to each other. Then he says lets go lunch after the movie, your choice so I pick Chilis as they ahve low al options. I ordered the guiltless chicken sandwick for 490 calories for the whole meal, kind of tastless but I kind of figured that it would be. they oredered mozzarella sticks, and sizzling cheese fajitas, oh it smellled so good. But I was good but it was so hard, I hope my scale reflects my good choices. I do love having my husband home but geez it makes for a very dificult time eating right.

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 12:39pm

I think definitely it is our own choices and changes, but certain habits of our S/Os can make it easier or harder for us.

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Mon, 09-11-2006 - 12:04pm

Yes it has. Mostly because I dno't feel comfy exercising around him, and those times I don't wanna leave the house, well, I don't exericse. :(


Also, for an example. He brought home a chocolate shake. FOR ME!!! WTF!!! He KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight and am spending slightly big bucks for the hypnosis stuff and here he is buying ME a milk shake that I did NOT ask for.


I drank it. Then I felt miserable after (cuz I drank it) and for some reason. I couldn't tell him it was upsetting to me that he bought it and I for some reason felt guilty and that was why I drank it. Maybe because he went and got the food and I stayed home.


Bleah. To lose weight. I wish I was single.

~IDM
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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 1:58am

I read this as one of the CLs referred it to me...and I feel like I wrote it. It took me a full year to add 20lbs, but it makes me ill. It happened because I wanted to spend the time I would be at the gym with him, and then started eating like him...steaks...pizza...burritos. Eck!

Anyway, change is good. I'll get back to my ways...starting last week!

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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 10:39am
My DH does this too. Brings me stuff "to be nice" that I didn't ask for and either way I feel like crap if I say I don't want it or I eat it and feel bad because I did.