Does not eating healthy mean.....
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| Mon, 09-11-2006 - 11:47am |
that you don't like yourself?
I had my second hypnosis session. I told her about how I tend to eat junk food when I'm happy. Or I make unhealthier choices. Her first response was, "why don't you like yourself?"
And I said, "excuse me? I don't understnad". and she said, "if you liked yourself, you'd want to feed your body good stuff. not junk stuff. when you're happy and you eat junk, it means you don't like yourself enough to give it good stuff. instead you want to give it bad stuff"
and I was sitting there thinking WTF!!! WHy is it that most of these ppl so far, think that eating bad stuff means we don't like ourselves, or we have hangups, or we are emotionally eating? can't we serioulsy enjoy certain foods, because our taste buds like it? Why is there always something BEHIND the bad eating?
But serouisly. for all of you here, who fight themselves to eat healthy. do you think it's because you don't like yourself?
because, according to the hypnotherapist, if you liked yourself, you'd WANT to be healthy and you'd WANT to feed your body only good things, and you'd WANT to live till your 100 and you'd WANT to do this for your children/family/etc.
BTW, she told me I needed to stop my backwards thinking, because no, I don't want to live forever, and no, if I die cuz I ate badly but I enjoyed every minute of it...that is wrong. I think of George Burns who said he enjoyed life, and smoked and drinked everyday cuz he enjoyed it. So it's wrong to enjoy life, even if it's not "good for your body"?
AUGH! I'm just so confused. And honestly, I think she's given me a complex. cuz now i sit here and think.....so when I want a chocolate bar, I'm not liking myself, because I'm not giving it a carrot instead. yeah, as if i need more "not liking myself" complexes.
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wow.
I think you explained what I felt exactly. I told her, "this is why I thought the hypnosis route will work, because all this is a mental block". and she said, "we have a lot of hard work ahead of this, this isn't going ot be easy at all" meaning, for her to do the hypnosis correctly. great. :(
i guess, we'll see if I start rewarding myself with healthy food. lol. who knows. i don't want to turn into that person that says, "ohmigod, i ran a marathon for the first time, i will reward myself with a salad, ohmigod, with bacon bits". yeah. i want to be healthy, but also, to be happy. and maybe i don't like myslef cuz i'm happy with a cheeseburger at times. is that so bad?
isn't it just weird? lol. and living in the OC (like the tv show), I'm sure that's not helping my warped way of thinking. unlike the show, not everyone here is blue-eyed size 2s or gorgeous hunks. lol. but yup, that's what they all strive to be. i dont' even want that. i just wanna NOT feel tired when climibing stiars, or walking the golf course. i wanna feel in shape.
guess i must not like myself much.....cuz i want a sandwich today. darn that bread :P
Hmm ... personally I think the hypnotherapist is being too black and white about the whole thing. I mean, you could carry that kind of thinking to an extreme and say, "if I watch anything unsubstantial on TV, it means I don't
I did want to point out that she believes in "moderation" whereas another hypnotherapist felt all foods not being good for you body was bad. Yikes.
But true, if we're not doing good things for our body 24/7, then yeah, we could take it as far as saying we don't like ourselves at that moment.
see, this is strange. i'm in a crappy mood. depressed, sad, down. i went and got a salad. gawd i must hate myself.
but for me, eating junk when happy, is because i want to taste something GREAT!!! it could be some healthy great food, for bad GREAT food. lol. today, my tastebuds didn't give a damn, so i felt i should eat something "bland". salad. don't get me wrong, i love salads and veggies, but yeah. it's still hard to choose that over a good burger.
she also got on my case cuz i said when I die, i don't want to regret being so health conscoius that i don't enjoy life and what it has to offer (food wise). she said "only in moderation" but remember this, that is a very selfish thing to say. you have a husband you have to think about, if you have kids or choose to have kids, what about them? and i said, "my weight loss, shouln't be about them, it should be about MY life and the moment I even start to think it should be for them, or even the r'ship (so they don't have to deal with me dying early, or being disabled), i will start to resent what i'm doing.....more so if we break up/divorce. yup, i got a scolding for that one.
i really am wacked. lol.
so, today, i guess i REALLY like myself even though my self-esteem is shot.
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Hmmm, do you think it might be the way you're putting it, or is the therapist just taking things waayyyyy too literally?
"I think again, having your fitness efforts tied to something or someone else gives you a lot of latitude to become resentful, or simply not do it because you have a problem with that something or someone.
That sounds like some session Cher.....no wonder you walked out of there, and are still totally confused, and not feeling well about yourself. Jeez.
I have to say that this discussion is really interesting. I'm on board with you about the fact that you eat a hamburger/chocolate bar, etc...does NOT mean (to me) that I don't like myself. I guess it is really about the attitude you're eating the 'burger' with.
As for who you're doing this for, again I agree it should be for YOU. Yea, think about others but ultimately you have to do this for yourself, and not the kids, your dh, whatever......
{{{HUGS}}}
~IslandGirl
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"So I think it's all about the attitude behind it."
Great point.....
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IG and Miranda both make good points! Yeah, I have to agree that you need to do this for yourself! I believe we only make lasting changes when we are doing it for US, not for anyone else. And you know yourself better than the therapist does. Maybe some people are motivated by the idea that they are being "selfish" if they don't do such and such ... I know I'm not. That would only de-motivate me, LOL. I would probably go on a huge binge!
"Maybe some people are motivated by the idea that they are being "selfish" if they don't do such and such ... I know I'm not. That would only de-motivate me, LOL. I would probably go on a huge binge!"
Exactly. That's the thing that bothered me. She lumped me with "everyone else" or whatevers...instead of asking me how I see things, or how I feel I work, etc.
If she told me I was being selfish to lose weight for my own self, I prolly wouldn't lose weight then. BEcause if she told me I was to lose it for K. The minute I get upset with him, I'd start binge eating. Payback. I know I can be spiteful, and if she knew that, she'd know that I HAVE to do this for me. And no one else.
Thanks everyone. I don't feel so FREAKISH now. lol. I mean, I do understand where she's coming from, however, I don't think she took into consideration who I am, versus her telling me who I should be. That bothers me a lot. Cuz, hello! I HATE ppl telling me who I should be. lol.
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