Need help!

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Registered: 10-14-2006
Need help!
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:26pm
Hi. I used to post on Atkins about 3 years ago. Well I feel off the diet 4 months after starting it. Made me sick. I lost weight but I have gained it all back plus some. I just don't know where to start. I am 35 5'4" and now weigh about 170. I was 159 just 6 weeks ago. I was down to 146 on atkins. I used to weigh 130 in my 20's. I feel so awful. I have no energy, my appetite is awful. I feel hungry all the time. I have been trying to walk everyday and cut back on serving size and not snacking at night. well after a day or two i just feel the uncontrollable urge to just eat everything. I am getting so frustrated. I am a mom and a college student I spend alot of time sitting in class, driving, and studying. I know I need to get more active. I just don't know what will get me going and get seriuos. I want to feel good about myself again. I don't even want my husband to look at me. I feel awful. Any suggestions would be great! For the past 2 winters I went to the gym 5 days a week and did the treadmill & bikes and weigh machines and only lost 4 pounds. I was so geeked up to get in shape and I didn't. I seems like i get my hopes up and it all crashes. I would be happy to get down to 135. I just try and picture myself like that and I get all set to do it and then I sabotage myself again and again. Thanks.
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Registered: 04-09-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 11:01am

Hi nice to meet you!! Think you are off to a good start by posting here. You'll find so many good ideas and lots of inspiration.


You mentioned not feeling good about yourself. I know how


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 11:28am
Welcome to the board!

 

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Registered: 12-04-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 11:28am

Welcome Brinky girl!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 6:32pm
Hey there Binky.......the ladies before me have said it all :-)
You'll find loads of support and ideas here. Hope you come back to visit with us soon!

~IslandGirl



Moderation IS Key!


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Registered: 10-14-2006
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 7:20pm
Thanks for all your replies. I really appreciate it. I do need to learn to take it slow and I can't expect to lose it fast, it took time to put these pounds on it is going to take time to get them off. I am a stress eater! And with college and kids and husband and house, friends and my family is all pulling at some part of me I have just been overwhelmed with anxiety! I am everyones go to person for the drama and there problems and when I have a bad day they are to busy to listen. I should mention this all started a few years ago first I lost my Grandma in the winter then my brother to suicide in may, just as I was coming back to feeling normal I miscarried in april at 5 weeks and I am not able to conceive again. I became very depressed and had little support from anyone except my husband and his family and my older kids they are all teens 18,16,13. My family thought I was lucky because it was not planned and I would have had to start all over raising kids. I feel I am on the verge of screaming at everyone! I did get kinda testing with my sister 2 weeks ago and she hasn't spoke to me sense, adding more stress. I am trying to walk every evening with my little puppy. we go at least 1/2 hour to an hour if i get my hubby to go too. I was trying to go to subway and slowly but surely the fatting burger and taco bell started calling my name. I drink tone of water, take a daily vitamin. I know I can do this I just need some support and some friends. I am shy so it is hard for me to get out there and meet new people. I wish I had a walking partner again. I lost mine and I hate walking alone. Thanks again!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 7:32pm
Sounds like you have had a very emotional year. I think concentrating on yourself physcially is a great place to start

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 9:01pm

That would be great if

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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 1:26am

Hi and welcome! It does sound like you've been through a lot emotionally this year, and food can sometimes feel like the only comfort we have during really tough times. And that's OK! It's so important to be gentle with yourself, and taking "baby steps" is the way to go! I have exercised more this year than I have in my entire life and the only reason that happened is because for once I decided to set manageable goals for myself, instead of completely unrealistic ones. I used to say, "Starting Jan. 1 I will exercise every day!" Of course that never happened. But if I say, "This week I will go for two 30 minutes walks," that will happen, it is totally manageable. What I've noticed is that I am actually enjoying exercise for the exercise itself, and I feel a lot healthier than I did 10 years ago!


Also, I've noticed the first week of doing anything new is the hardest. This was true for me with starting to exercise, starting to incorporate healthier food into my diet, and giving up diet Pepsi, which I did a month ago (so I will drink more water). If I can just get through that first week, it's much easier, because than I can say to myself, "well, I've done this for a week, good for me." The positive feelings that come from that accomplishment make the next week easier, etc. The more manageable your goals are, the more you feel you have accomplished, and you don't have to get into that territory of "oh no, I ate two brownies, I totally blew it!"


This is a really great board! I hope you like it here.


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Registered: 12-04-2003
In reply to: brinky_girl
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 11:05am

What an emotionally draining period for you.