He brought home doughnuts!!!

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He brought home doughnuts!!!
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 2:12pm
My hubby brought home 1 dozen Crispy Creme doughnuts this morning!! He said they were a reward for the kids but after I declined a chocolate glazed custard filled goodie he started to pressure me to eat it(teasingly but still I felt the pressure). I have not eaten one and don't plan on it. There are 3 left and I don't want to throw them away since they were for the kids. Am I paranoid or was that an attempt at sabatoge?? I know he wants me to be healthy and happy but I also know that he's insecure that'll I'll, "get hot and leave him". Any suggestions on avoiding his attempts to stray off the healthy path? I know that the occasional indulgence is okay but sometimes I don't feel his support in my weight loss efforts.
Thanks and sorry for the rant!!
Deborah
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 3:33pm
Good for you being so strong with the donuts in the house.....maybe next time he can treat the kids out!! Keep strong Debroah!!

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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:14pm

You are one strong woman - I don't think I could resist a Crispy Creme donut - especially


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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 7:21pm

I would have a really hard time resisting Krispy Kremes too ... good for you!


I agree with the suggestion to tell DH if he wants to treat the kids, fine, but treat them by taking them OUT to eat! Or he could treat them in a non-food way, like by taking them to a movie.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-25-2007 - 9:20am

Calories/Fat in a Krispy Kreme chocolate iced custard filled donut: 300 Calories/17 grams fat.

Look at the donut from a work-out point of view. Equate that donut with what it will take to burn it off. At your weight (which is my current weight too!) it would take 70 minutes of MODERATE walking to burn off that donut.

Once I started looking at food from an exercise point of view, the food isn't as appealing any more.

I sympathize with you. I am POSITIVE that your husband supports your weight loss because in the end, the best result is being HEALTHY! And I am sure your hubby wants you to be healthy and live long.

Every time I lose weight (which I've lost 40-70 pounds THREE TIMES in the 13 years we've been married) my husband secretly hates it because he thinks I'm going to get "all buff" and leave him. I ended his fears by telling him that whether I'm 210 or 140 pounds, I am confident, and weight has nothing to do with leaving or staying.

They are fragile creatures (even though they don't look it).

The next time he teases or tempts you with sweets, think about how much exercise it will take to burn it off:

http://www.self.com/health/activity/calculators/walking/result?weightPounds=172&duration=70&activity=&met=3.3&submit.x=35&submit.y=10

(here's an exercise thingy that will show approximately how many calories you can burn by walking) and then decide it the donut is really worth it. If you have an affternoon and can take a nice, moderate 70 minute walk, eat the donut. Otherwise, pass and congratulate yourself on your will power!

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 01-25-2007 - 11:28am

You are truly a strong woman for resisting!


I think that it is fairly common for those close to us to fear the changes we are striving to make. Especially since as we get older, we start to talk about "making changes" and not just losing weight. Sometimes they can think that we are unsatisfied with other areas of our lives, not just our bodies, and that we are looking to leave them behind.


It might be important as you make these changes to make time for just you and your hubby, and to keep him in the loop regarding the changes you are making. Reassure him that you want to be a better you - not necessarily a different you! Of course you still have to stick to your guns on your diet and exercise goals, but explain to him that you need his support to be successful, so bringing in those donuts made you feel like he isn't supportive of your weight loss goals. Don't tell him what he did was wrong, explain to him how it made you feel.


The idea of him taking the kids out for treats is another great idea!!

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Thu, 01-25-2007 - 11:57am
Congrats on not taking the donut bait. Perhaps your DH was doing two things - making sure you really are keen to lose weight and also giving you an idea of what it will be like to have to say no. It's easy to say you want to lose weight, but actually doing it and keeping off are two different things. Don't be too hard on him; let's be realistic we can not hide from donuts our entire lives and you can't expect the donut fairies to avoid your house. Granted it would be nice if perhaps he brought you a low calorie treat to have instead.:)

When I am hit with an urge, I just think of the fact that the taste might be nice and how lovely it will be, it's gone in seconds and all I will be left with the fat that will ultimately hit my thighs unless I hit the gym. So I can easily forgoe a few moments of junk food bliss cuz in the long run, I won't have that same taste when I am having to sweat away on the tread mill.
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Thu, 01-25-2007 - 1:22pm

Thank you all for your support and encouragement!! I sucessfully resisted the beautiful, sweet, yummy doughnut!!! Mmmmmmm, doughnuts.....please excuse my while I wipe the drool off the keyboard. The important thing is that I didn't eat it and after explaining to mu hubby why he shouldn't try to tempt me again I think he got it. It's just so furstrating sometimes. There are temptations everywhere, home should be a safe place!!

Deborah

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