Hello....trying to gain weight here...
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Hello....trying to gain weight here...
| Mon, 06-11-2007 - 2:36pm |
Good day!
I would like to know if I'm way off track here. I'm 31 and I'm trying to put on about 20 pounds. Can i hang out here or is there a better place for me somewhere else? Thanks.
Sarah


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Ya I think that part of my problem is that I LOVE to smoke. I love the taste and the smell and the head rush...LOL. I know it's stupid, but that's the honest to god truth. It's amazing, because I have such guilt about it you know....the breast lump, the kids telling me I'm killing myself, the fact that my teeth are as yellow as the sun....but I can't stop!
Sarah
Well I was right there with you when I was smoking so I do understand - for me smoking was also a reaction to stressful things - if I got bad news, it was go out for a smoke; got ticked off go out for smoke.
You'll get there - but it does take time. I think that it is one of the most important things you can do for your body though, so give some serious thought to making the effort. (okay, nag over, LOL).
As for the skeletol women, isn't it funny how we look at ourselves in comparison with others - we can be so critical of ourselves until we see someone who is skinnier, heavier or just more extreme than ourselves to pull us back to reality a bit.
As for gaining weight - I know I'm looking at ways of slimming down my smoothies, but they can also be a great way to pack in nutrients and calories depending on what you put in them. They make a quick breakfast and you can add in whatever you like!
Sarah, from reading your response I just wanted to point out that I didn't intend for my other post to sound like I thought you were unhealthy- not at all. I was just implying that perhaps a doctor or nutritionist would be able to steer you in a way to 'gain' the weight you'd like to in a healthy manner.
I hope I didn't offend.
Seeing people skeletal (like your friends girlfriend) worries me too. You can tell a healthy 'skinny' from the others ;-)
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we can be so critical of ourselves until we see someone who is skinnier, heavier or just more extreme than ourselves to pull us back to reality a bit.>>>
I know what you mean. My best friend and I were watching TV and there was a show on about obese people, you know, the ones that are 800 pounds and cant' get out of their houses? She said it made her feel silly for worrying about losing weight, so basically it's the same thing as the feelings I felt.
Sarah
we can be so critical of ourselves until we see someone who is skinnier, heavier or just more extreme than ourselves to pull us back to reality a bit.>>>
My greatest fear is that I could become one of them and not know it.
Oh not at all! Most under or overweight people should have their health checked frequently. Not offended in the least.
That's what I'm saying. That's why I get really frustrated when people make comments to me like 'why don't you eat something' or 'do you like food' or 'you must shop in the little girls' section', or if I tell someone about my problem with my weight, I HATE when they say things like 'well I wish I had THAT problem'. The truth is, i'm not OVERLY skinny. I'm slim, and trim...and want to put on a few pounds. I wish that people would just see me for me, and not as "oh there's that skinny one that works there"....or whatever they say. Imagine if I said that about an overweight girl? I often wonder what an overweight woman would feel if I were to say something like "you must shop in the plus size section, what are you a size 50?" or "you must REALLY love food"....LOL
how ridiculous that people can be so insensitive about others....but yes, I honestly am worried about this girl, because I have never seen someone so sickly in real life, and that is the honest truth....but I'm sure as heck not going to tell her, "eat something you skinny minny" like people have said to me....
Sarah
My greatest fear is that I could become one of them and not know it. I think it's hard for any of us to see what others see when they look at us.>>>
You are so right. But where is the happy medium? At what point to we say that what other people see doesn't matter? Is it when our doctor says that we are a healthy size? Or is it when other people are uncomfortable enough around us that they can't help but stare or make stupid comments, or constantly compare themselves to us?
What is the criteria for being happy with our bodies? What's the secret to awesome self-esteem? When are we going to realize that our ideal figure, size, strength etc, are not supposed to be the same as everyone else?
Sarah
..."wonder what an overweight woman would feel if I were to say something like "you must shop in the plus size section, what are you a size 50?" or "you must REALLY love food"....
Great point Sarah!
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I don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings or anything.
I just think that people should keep their mouths shut about other people's bodies because we never know how hard it is for them to gain, or lose weight, or whether it's an illness or something....I have had a terrible time with my judgments about morbidly obese people. I'm very ashamed, but I couldn't understand them. All I could see was the food food food, and I could never equate that it was an eating disorder, why eat so much? Why can't they stop? How could they do that to themselves? But then it's the same thing when you look at people that have anorexia or bulimia, why do they think they look fat? Why can't they eat? i'm guilty of both. I'm trying to break myself of it. luckily I've been hurt so much by comments that even though I feel something, I know how to keep my yap closed...LOL
Sarah
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