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luv2travel04
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Registered: 05-29-2004
exhausted from confusion
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 Sat, 05-29-2004 - 5:09pm
Hello,

I'm 13W preg and have been considering AB for 2 wks ... have waited until the Last Hour, have cancelled & rescheduled appt 2 times. (It took me so long, because I had considering keeping baby and/or hoping above all hope for miscarriage for 1st few wks - mentally denying preg, etc) I'm 40, single, no children, was in the relationship w/ father for 3 yrs. He will do his financial part, but will have NO involvement. I do NOT wanna be a single mom ... am so fearful of this. I am so afraid of the child facing a life of no father or being rejected by father.

I never planned on this pregnancy and still would prefer and have prayed hard for a miscarriage. I'm just so afraid of after feelings of abortion. But, it seems that I'm more afraid of being a single Mom and an unwed pregnancy/birth. Thank You for any insight. I've searched so many websites, etc .... am just exhausted ;-)


Edited 5/29/2004 5:52 pm ET ET by luv2travel04

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jessie_sherman
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: luv2travel04
exhausted from confusion
 Sun, 05-30-2004 - 10:48am
If you do not want to go thru the aftermath of abortion, and you do not want to be a single mother, have you considered adoption? You have many choices you can make, just choose one that you know you can live with. Some people can have an abortion, go thru the grieving process, and move on. Others come to dwell on their choice. You know yourself better than anyone else, make the best choice for yourself.

HUGS,

Jess

luvinmy3
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Registered: 02-21-2004
In reply to: luv2travel04
exhausted from confusion
 Sun, 05-30-2004 - 6:20pm
It doesn't seem like you are to sure about having an AB and that is ok. It's not like it's and easy choice to make. It does seem like you are set on not being a single mother and I agree with you about how the child might feel considering how the father is being. I think you should seriously look into adoption. There are so many people out there who want a baby and if you don't want to deal with the after AB stuff and don't want to be a single mom, it might be your most logical choice. As well as suiting you emotionally. Good luck with making your decision.
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