considering second abortion
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|Thu, 05-12-2005 - 6:49pm|
I had my first abortion in November (I'm in my 30's). I was ready for a baby but my partner wasn't and he also could not bear to have a child that he would not raise, so we opted for abortion. He is younger and still in grad school and I knew I would have had an abortion if I had gotten pregnant in grad school, so I respected his not being ready. I knew I would regret it and still do, even though he has been very supportive and we are closer than before the abortion.
However, now I am pregnant again and am very upset. I told myself and him after the last abortion that I could not do it again. We tried to be careful but our birthcontrol options are limited as I cannot use any hormonal methods due to medical reasons. We used a combination of sponges and rhythm method, but it isn't working obviously. Now I find myself agreeing to have an abortion again, but fear that I cannot handle it emotionally, especially since I was just starting to heal from my last abortion.
I know it is better to wait to have a baby with him after he is out of school and we marry, especially since his family is conservative and will accept it better that way, but I worry that I can't stand the emotional trauma.