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| Thu, 01-13-2005 - 8:09am |
I was touched during the Big Loser when Gary and his family went out to eat and his wife said she didn't want to get something that would tempt him.


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i like when he orders something "tempting" because then i can have just one bite of it. i don't care if he orders or buys something unhealthy (for my benefit at least - of course i care for his health) as long as he only buys enough for himself, which he does. actually i've asked him not to buy me any food that i haven't specifically asked him to pick up and he doesn't. in general, i'm not a good person to buy ANYTHING for unless i've asked for it (i hate having stuff i don't want), and i think he knows me well enough by now to "get"
My bf HATES desserts with a passion and I'm not fond of them either, but his total aversion to anything sweet keeps me from ordering dessert because I refuse to eat the whole thing. Lately, he's been ordering the EXACT same food as me, which is kind of amusing, but is good, because his purpose for doing that is to eat healthier. However, sometimes (like 5% of the time) I'll order something bad, and he'll joke, "well then I can blame your bad choices if I gain weight."
My mom, who I live with, is another story, here's something that I posted on another board:
My mom ALWAYS buys me treats - not because she wants to be nice, but for the sole reason of sabotaging me. I have literally begged her ON MY KNEES, in TEARS to stop doing this, but she conveniently "forgets". Now I am free of cravings enough that having that tart sitting on the counter won't bother me, but it's the principle that makes me so incredibly angry.
My mom has told me before that she feels sorry that she can eat whatever she wants and that I "must've got the fat genes from your father."
FYI, my mom is 5" taller than me, eats whatever she wants, never exercises, and weighs less than I do.
You're so nice.
i manage to do it without nagging, surprisingly. at least he doesn't seem to think it's nagging. i am very mild about it, i don't know if that's the right word, but i'm not pushy about it.
i'm much more vocal (naggy?) about him not going to the gym, but i feel like i'm justified in that b/c he's spent over $50 a month for the past year paying for TWO gyms that he doesn't go to. i told him he needs to go or quit the gym, and that seems to have motivated him a bit because he doesn't want to quit the gym. he promised to go 3 times a week or he'd quit the gym.
then last night he was talking about getting another video game that comes out in June and at first i was saying "we don't need any more video games, you don't play the ones you have now" (which he acknowledged was right - he has barely played the last one he bought) and then i realized that it would be a great carrot, so i said - "how about, we can get the game if you go to the gym 3 times a week for 6 whole months straight." and he agreed! that would be incredible if he actually did that! this morning he was complaining about getting up so he could go to the gym and i started making sword crashing noises to remind him that he better get up if he wants his game! and it worked, he got up.
i don't know why it's more justified for me to be concerned about money - him being unhealthy affects me just as much as his spending habits, if not more. i'd happily buy a whole store's worth of games to if it would make him healthy and live longer. but for some reason (maybe it's a male thing?) i have more credibility when i focus on the short term financial cost of not going to the gym than i do on the long term emotional cost to me if he's not healthy.
My dh is great, actually.
My fiancé and I are definitely on the same page as far as food goes. In fact, he eats so healthy it's annoying sometimes. He was pretty massive in college - he played O-line. Once his football career was over, he worked extremely hard to take off all that weight (and did). Now he has to continue to work hard to keep it off. He works out more than I do - probably 6 times a week, and does a ton of weight lifting and running. For breakfast he has a protein shake. We both love to eat (lots), so for lunch and dinner we have massive salads w/different vegetables and some sort of protein (probably about 5 days a week). You'd be amazed at how many different salad combinations we have invented to keep it interesting. :) Some days, though, I just want a pizza or something and he'll say, "don't you think we should have something a little more nutritious?" Or if I suggest having garlic bread or something w/a meal he'll yell "empty carbs!!" Keeps me in line. His one downfall is I think he eats too much red meat.
When we go out to eat, we both just get whatever we feel like at the moment, and it's usually not very healthy. I try not to worry about occasional splurges, though.
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