Struggling a little bit...

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Struggling a little bit...
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 11:40pm

So technically, this isn't really a gymrat rant, but it *is* a gymrat's woes... Just feeling really stressed lately.

The house/moving stuff is weighing heavily on my mind. I am probably overthinking things. I worry about whether we're making the right the decision and although I know if it turns out we did, we can still resell and move but I'm the sort of person that likes to do things right the first time (hello Type A personality). I keep turning this over in my mind and when I ask DH how he feels about it, he says "It's fine. I'll be happy wherever." I find that maddening. It makes me feel like I'm making this decision by myself. He's out of town until Monday and I'm actually glad because I've wanted to strangle him the last few days...

I've had some aggravation with my trainers at work. Managing people is a whole new ballgame for me and boy, do I have new respect for managers. I've come to realize one of the most useful and valuable skills a person can have is following directions. It seems like a no-brainer to me, but I gave very specific detailed instructions this week and one person out of 12 did as I asked. My supervisor is having the same troubles with her staff as well. We can't figure out if our people are stupid or lazy to the point where they refuse to think things through and ask for help immediately. I had to really watch myself a few times this week not to be short with someone.

Back to the house thing... I'm also upset about some comments that DH's brother made. He was over this week and DH told him about the house, etc. and he made it very clear that he thought we were making a bad decision. He went on to say that every decision that we've made since college has been a bad decision. I was not present for this conversation but heard it second-hand from DH and it made my blood boil. BIL can be very judgemental at times and doesn't have a spiffy track record either. He also apparently has issues with tact. His comments upset DH and that in turn upset me. I so want to email him about it, but am sitting on my hands. I think it would be a bad idea in the long run.

Thanks for letting me vent guys. Just a side note related to what-would-a-gymrat-do... I had a two hour meeting today with the head of the company and I was completely fried after that. I so did not feel like doing cardio, but I forced myself onto the treadmill to do my second day of the running program and followed that up with 35 minutes on the elliptical. It was tough and I really had to push through but I'm glad I did. It felt good to push myself (not so much during, but afterwards. :) You all are about the only folks I know who can appreciate this.

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:28am

Moving is one of the top three stresses for people so what you're going through is normal, though it might not help you feel better.






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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:20am

jean, i love you. quoting the movie "ice castles"... AND bringing a barbie to the hair stylist, you are the bees knees. i want to marry you. oh yeah, you are already married. and oh yeah, that's illegal anyway.


sorry about your stress, kel. feel free to vent anytime. i hope you feel better soon.


i'm trying to cut back on giving unsolicited advice, but one thing i can't resist - cut your husband some slack. it's not his fault you are type A and he's not. and if he's "too laid back" in your mind... well, as my former personal trainer

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:28am
Yeah, if I weren't so geeky stay at home mom-like, I could almost be geeky chic.





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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:57am

you aren't geeky, you are a mommi-fabulous *superstar!*


the only thing that would possibly make you cooler would be if next time you do two unassisted pull ups, get down on one knee and raise both arms up in the air and yell "superstar!"


i should rent ice castles, i haven't seen it since i was a kid.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:15pm

What if I do the pull ups, jump down and do a touchdown dance with






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Registered: 05-01-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:25pm
Tough workouts were made for times like these. Hang in there and sweat a lot. I'm afraid that you've come to the wrong place about your house, dh, bil, etc. woes. The majority of us are Type A too. It must be a gym rat thing... Anyway, I can appreciate your aggravation but have no advice to offer other than release the stress when you workout. Use the gym as your sanctuary and get your worries off your chest.
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 1:01am

Wow, you have it all!

The stress of a move. Meddling, troublesome relatives. A hubby who is your polar opposite. Stupid co-workers.

I'd be a raving lunatic. Wait, I already am!

I know, it is horrible and you are fried and feeling pulled all over. Take a deep breath, remember why you love hubby and rejoice in the fact you married him and not his annoying brother. Remember that if your lucky your co-workers are merely stupid and incompetent and not malicious and homicidal. And, think how cool it is to move into a NEW, CLEAN, FRESHLY painted home. No dust-bunnies. No marks on the walls. No funky smells that you cannot track down in the boy's room (don't ask...)

See, this is why I make a good Navy-wife. I don't mind moving, it guarentees me a clean house once every four years... sad, huh?

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~K~

~Kiervin~

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 9:11am
Thanks for a much needed chuckle. :)