Hormonal?
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| Tue, 02-22-2005 - 10:44am |
Ok ladies, I have been having many up and down's lately. I have been varying my diet and trying new things. Changing up the workouts a little as well in an effort to keep it fresh. The last two weeks I have missed a few days at the gym and I have even tried to be ok with that. Letting myself enjoy the weight I have lost and understanding people have lives and we need to live them.
The DF was here ( I accepted the proposal ) (However on several terms for the time being) this weekend. I was crabby all weekend, I was chalking it up to PMS, I have been exhausted as well. Tired to the point I am falling asleep at 9pm and not wanting to get up AT ALL. I can hardly move. I don't feel flu like or that I am getting sick I am just rundown.
I am wondering if this chemical? Could my hormones have changed with the weight loss?
I went to the gym last night and had a great workout, really pushed it and made myself feel better. While I was running I was chatting with someone I see who works out there and he has lost about 200#s. He asked me if I thought I was going to be happy at goal weight and I said I doubted it because of certain things I notice about my body now. He said he went through the same thing. He felt unattractive and so on. One of the things I notice about myself is I don't feel girly. I have lost a lot in the boob dept. Which I know should make no difference but it has made me feel less of a woman, I feel my body has changed so much that I don't feel sexy, or something it is hard to explain.
I was just curious what you guys thought? I have an ob/gyn appt and I am going to speak to her about it. I think that something in my body has changed that I need to figure out.




I'd follow up on the feeling run-down and make sure you aren't missing vitamins/nutrients. I feel cruddy when my iron dips too low.
The rest is all part of the mental aspect of weight loss. It is as, if not more mental than it is physical. Until you work through the issues that arise you will have these problems. This is where most folks fail, it is where I did.
I don't know the story on DF so I won't assume to give advice there, just an observation. I've been happily married for 15 years, and did have a life/relationships prior to making the committment to DH so I have a bit of experience on you. I think that conditions for committment tend to be a problem in the long run. Either he is the right man, or he isn't, asking him to change in exchange for your love might backfire.
~K~
~Kiervin~
Co-author of: MONSTER'S INK HORROR ANTHOLOGY By Cyber-Pulp Press
It's not really a matter of him changing. It is the logistics of it all. We live in different places right now. That is where the conditions came into play.
I was married once already, for 8 years. So I am not looking to make some of the bad career moves I made in the past etc.
I am going to get my iron checked, and ask a few questions. I would assume with everything that has changed it is possible something in my body has as well.
i have never heard of weight loss negatively affecting people's hormones. could it be something else? did you just go on or get off the pill?
it's pretty common for people to have a negative psychological impact from losing weight. it's quite possible it's having an impact on you. the most common thing i've heard, though it doesn't sound like this applies to you, is that women feel more vulnerable after losing a lot of weight, like the extra weight was an emotional barrier between them and others, and also made them feel physically protected from negative male attention. this is particularly prevalent among women who've been sexually abused in the past. while i know this is different than what you are talking about, the point is just that weight loss can definitely have a psychological effect on you. if nothing else, you've really had to change your self identity - from seeing yourself as a larger woman to a smaller woman, and that's hard. i'm not surprised that you
Thank goodness. Honestly, not knowing the story made me hesitant to say anything. I had a friend once who set some pretty messed up conditions on a man who proposed to her-sad thing was, he was a really great guy (and she was a great person too, just unsure of herself). She wanted him to get rid of his best friend (she saw him as a threat), change careers, save so much money prior to the wedding, and a few others-including get circumcised! He left her for the first woman willing to accept him as he was.
Definately check your iron for the physical issues.
And, I really think that people underestimate the mental aspect of this journey. We talked about this alot when I first embarked on losing weight. Until you've examined why you were overweight and identified what led to it and dealt with that there will be baggage. This board really helped me process alot of that back when. I'm still processing it, I always will be. I think that embracing the whole you is the key here. It isn't always going to be physical, what are you feeling? Why? What has changed or could change in your life due to weight loss? These are all legitimate questions to ask/process.
~K~
~Kiervin~
Co-author of: MONSTER'S INK HORROR ANTHOLOGY By Cyber-Pulp Press
Yes that it who the DF is. An ex turned into a non-ex now.
I think part of my mood and eveything else is our situation. Me living in MI him living in KS. It is tough, I have been going back anf fourth and so has he since last summer. It is really starting to take its toll he left on Sunday and I sat there begging him to stay, I was crying making a total butt out of myself in the airport.
This adjustment from a big girl to a "normal" sized women is strange. I am not sure what to do. I will give you an example of something that happened recently that got me thinking about this.
I was flying home from KS on Northwest. The flight was packed and there was no room for me to put my bag which I hate by the way, if I wanted to check a bag I would have, but I digress. This guy who had been looking at me before we were boarding was sitting in an exit row, noticed me walking back up the aisle to check my bag so we could take off. He offered to put it under the seat in front of him, to where the man sitting next to him objected. Saying he wanted more leg room. The guy who offered said "why wouldn't we help such a beautiful young lady out" NEVER would have happened in my 300# days. Some people treat fat people horribly. I can tell men notice me, it makes me uncomfortable, I am not sure why. I just see people viewing me in a different light. Which can be good and bad.
I think the other MAIN issue here I live with a roommate. She is a large woman. Who has dieted several times and actually started WW's with me when I moved into her home. She has since quit and eats EVERYTHING in sight. Pizza boxes all over the living room floor, Mc Donald's bags all over the counter she is a total pig. She is telling me EVERYDAY that not all men like athletic women, that I should relax, that I don't need a gym, men don't want that. Well I am not doing this for a man. I have worked hard for what I have done, but for me and my health.
Well I am not doing this for a man. I have worked hard for what I have done, but for me and my health.
Words to live by. That's the quote I'm going to turn in for the "quotable quote" this week.