Monday Journal

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Monday Journal
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Mon, 06-20-2005 - 7:13am

Well, my shoulders are sore from kayaking yesterday! I went by myself, and paddled around for 2 hours- it was fun! Working out with my best friend tonight.

Breakfast: bowl of cereal w/ soymilk

Lunch: soy pita w/ ham, cheese, lettuce, hummus. Carrots on the side

Dinner: Either fish or chicken, w/veggies, something else on the side

Snack- grapefruit

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:23am
Yeah, the only thing that sucks is the hiking thing- you can't go hiking by yourself! And I really want to go hiking :(
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:10am

Is it a safety issue?






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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:24am

Yeah, it's safety that concerns me. Besides if something happened to me out on the trail medically speaking, the thought of "lone female hiker never seen again" just crosses my mind- who knows who else might be out there in the woods. I'd love to be able to do both strenuous hiking or a leisurely stroll. But that is nice to know that Great Falls is relatively safe. I know it's a very busy area- Wes goes climbing there.

ETA: Blah, I know it seems like I complain a lot about not having anyone to do anything with, but it's really true! I know seriously like 4 people (one who's moving away soon) down here that I consider to be friends and see in any semi-regular capacity.




Edited 6/21/2005 8:25 am ET ET by bostondivac
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:26am
yes, i like hiking by myself. it's perfectly safe if you stick to well-traveled trails - and if you want to be extra safe, tell someone that you are going and when to expect you back.
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:30am
Wouldn't it be nice if we lived near each other since we have similar interests?
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:33am

Oh, of course I would definitely tell someone where I was going- otherwise, I might end up like that guy out west who had to cut his arm off- he didn't tell anyone where he was going, and he's lucky they found him alive.

It's just so much more fun to do stuff like this with someone else. Sigh...I miss Wes so much.

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:42am

that's just the way it is for most people after college is over - it takes a long time to find good friends, and most people never meet friends as easily as they did in school. i don't have many friends in the area either, and most of them don't have time to do things with me more than once in a blue moon. but i only even have the friends i do have because i went out of my way to meet people and to become friends with them. i identified a group of people i wanted to get to know, and i invited them all over for a big potluck at my house. that's how i got to know a lot of my friends in the area.


so i do things on my own, or meet new people to do things with. you don't have to be good friends with someone to go hiking or kayaking with them - most people have casual "activity" friends that they mostly only hang out with because they share a common interest. a good example is the women in my vegan knitting group - we don't hang out with each outside of knitting, but it's nice to have people who share my interest to get together and knit with, and talk about yarn, etc.


anyway, there are a lot of ways to meet people who share your interests - for instance, hiking clubs like jean mentioned, craigslist, and just doing the activities and introducing yourself to people you run into while doing it. give it time and you'll meet more people. also, it's nice to have time to yourself - enjoy it!

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:59am

even if you and wes were still together, that wouldn't really change much with regard to this issue. i know you probably don't mean it this way, but the way you talk about him, it almost sounds like you miss him more just because he was someone to do stuff with more than you actually miss him as a person. but that's not what a relationship should be about. anyway, even if you were together, i would hope you wouldn't be spending all your time together - you'd still need friends and interests of your own. you don't want to be dependent on your SO.


i really believe that a great romantic relationship can only develop when someone is totally happy being by themselves first. otherwise, you end up in relationships for the wrong reasons and with the wrong people. enjoy being on your own and having time to make friends in a new area. then, when you meet someone new, you'll be in a place to build a healthy relationship with the right guy.


i'm not trying to be a

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 2:43pm
That would be sooo cool!





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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 2:51pm
I was just thinking the same thing about that guy!