Monday Journal

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Monday Journal
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Mon, 06-20-2005 - 7:13am

Well, my shoulders are sore from kayaking yesterday! I went by myself, and paddled around for 2 hours- it was fun! Working out with my best friend tonight.

Breakfast: bowl of cereal w/ soymilk

Lunch: soy pita w/ ham, cheese, lettuce, hummus. Carrots on the side

Dinner: Either fish or chicken, w/veggies, something else on the side

Snack- grapefruit

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 2:57pm

As you get older, people get more involved in their lives so you don't have time for each other as much, either.






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Registered: 08-05-2003
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:29pm

Just a short comment- no, I don't see Wes as someone to merely "do stuff" with- it just makes me very sad to think about all the stuff we'd said we'd do together this summer. I still spent time with the few friends I do have down here while we were dating. And I miss him as a person- we both loved each other, and cared about each other a lot. It was rough on both of us to break up.

As far as us not being "right" for each other, that's a debatable topic, which he and I both have discussed, and I don't wish to discuss with anyone else, since most people don't know him. It wasn't a question of not being right for each other- it's hard to explain, and I won't try to explain it here.

Please, no more on this topic. I promise that I will never mention him again on this board.




Edited 6/21/2005 7:29 pm ET ET by bostondivac
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 10:53pm

Sorry, I know you wanted to end the conversation, chrissy, but I'm late and wanted to make another comment. Hope you read this. I know EXACTLY how you feel. My best friend, and really the only real friend I had, moved away in May. I miss her all of the time. I get sad when I think about the plans we had made and the things that we did last summer. It is really hard to move on.

One thing that has helped me, though, is actually doing stuff by myself. I know that sounds weird, but it has allowed me to open up to people I may not have otherwise talk to because I would have been talking to my friend.

Please, if you need to vent about wes, don't feel bad about doing it here. I think Jen and Jean were just observing and trying to help. We just want to help ya out.

Paula

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:04am

Like Paula, I just wanted to throw my own two cents in here and I hope it's not inappropriate...

I think it can be nearly impossible to truly articulate the depth of a relationship, especially on a message board. I can absolutely understand the way that you feel (at least the way I understand you) in regards to your relationship and the sadness that comes with plans unfinished. I lost a very close friendship in the last couple of years and it still makes me sad when I think about all the things that we said we'd do.

You're going through a true loss here and if you were through grieving already, I might wonder about the depth of your feelings in the first place. You take the time you need and please feel free to talk it over here as you need to. We're gymrats, but first and foremost, we're *people* and we understand and have likely been through similar things.

*hugs*

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 6:50am

Thanks, Paula and Kel.






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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 9:17am

i guess i didn't express myself well again... i wasn't trying to discuss your relationship with wes or speak to it at all - i thought i was careful to clarify that, but i guess not careful enough. i was just saying that, of course you are going to be sad and mourning the loss of that relationship, but i hope you don't let that prevent you from living your life. i didn't mean you weren't right for each other in some cosmic sense, but just that there is some reason you aren't together and whatever it is (i wouldn't expect you to share), and it's good that you found that out early. there is good to be found in the break-up, though of course only you can discover what that good is. this opportunity to reach out and find new friends in this area, to discover new interests,

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