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| Fri, 07-22-2005 - 3:21pm |
I didn't really want to go shopping this morning. Mostly because I have avoided shopping over the last couple of years because I've been so unhappy with my body and shopping was no longer fun. But, I figured I needed to face reality and just go do it.
It's funny... even with my compression garment on and stuff mostly smoothed out, I STILL had trouble buying clothes. Things just didn't look right or hang right or whatever. *sigh* I did manage to come home with two pairs of pants and two shirts. I splurged and bought myself the most badass looking pair of athletic shoes I could find though. :) Loud crazy shoes make me happy. I also got a gift for a client that's been training with me for a year.
I am slowly remembering that weight has so little to do with shopping. Clothes are just not cut for people who have any sort of womanly curves whatsoever.

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Shopping can be torture.
Keep in mind you still have your compression garment on and are not down to the shape you will be.
i'm sure there are many many women who have a thin, "boyish" figure who have had days of shopping at least as bad as you did today. most clothes are not made for women with small breasts, for instance. also, it's difficult for women who fall in that gap between petite and regular, as well as for women too short for petite or too tall for regular. it's difficult to find clothes being a particularly short-waisted person - i basically cannot wear dresses at all. i could go on and on. this isn't to be unsympathetic, it's just to give perspective.
if we did a study on which women were most likely to enjoy shopping, i predict it wouldn't be non-curvy women or women who are a perfect size 4. i bet it would be women who have recently gone from, let's say, a size 26 to a size 16 - that is, women who are (at least temporarily) appreciating their bodies and not focusing on the flaws. it's all relative. a lot of women would be thrilled if they woke up one morning in your body and they'd go to town shopping, curves and all.
you will have fun shopping when you appreciate your body the way it is, and recognize that it's beautiful the way it is. yes, the tunnelvision of the designers will still affect you, as it affects 99% of the women in the world. but it is just one of those things about life that women just deal with, like how the lines in the women's bathroom are always so much longer. but i just hope that you didnt expect that having surgery was going to give you peace with your body, because you can't do that by changing your body, the only way to do that is to change your head.
You know, I'm starting to think that alterations just might be the way to go. I deserve to have stuff that fits!
I think athletic shoes are magical. I always want them and I always love the way I feel in them. :)
Is there a line where I can trade in my girl-card for the privilege of being a guy and having the convenience of getting to pee while standing up, not to mention picking a waist size off the shelf and going home with it? :)
Seriously, no, I didn't think surgery would magically somehow bring me peace with my body. It's just been such a while since I went shopping that I truly forgot what a pain it is. I realize that the majority of women have problems with clothes. I'm actually fairly happy with my upper body but can only buy fitted shirts thanks to my ample bosom. :P
I have the same question that Jean does though... WHO is wearing these clothes off the rack???
I am the queen of curves and I find nice clothing that fits well.
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