Is this fair?
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| Wed, 08-10-2005 - 10:57am |
I have to give up everything in order to assure that this baby makes it to full term and is healthy. I do it because it is my child and I want it to be okay. Dh, though, doesn't think he has to give up anything. He continues to play volleyball twice a week, drums three times a week, poker once a week, golf once a week, raquetball twice, and basketball twice. It isn't fair, is it? I mean, it is his baby too.
I don't expect him to give up everything because then we would both be bored and aggitated, but he could spend some time with the bored prego on his couch. When I said something to him he just said, "well I didn't play golf last weekend, and I work and need a break." Uh! One day of golf compared to 6 days of the gym for me and 3 days of tae kwon do for me.
Maybe I'm being unfair to expect him to give up anything just because I can't do it. What do you think?
Paula

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Although I wasn't on bed rest, I remember how bored I was when I was pregnant. I would sit your husband down and tell him how you feel, rather than what you want, including how he makes you feel when he runs off to do his "fun" stuff, which you are stuck at home. I would also think that he should be giving up some activities so he can help you with the kids. You shouldn't be using up all of your allotted time on your feet taking care of them. He should be home helping you so that you can enjoy a little me time. I think it is completely reasonable of you to ask him to be home with you more often because this is his baby too and if you are unhappy that isn't good for anyone concerned, including the baby.
Jody
Hey girl! I was wondering where you went. I really tried to communicate how I was feeling, but he didn't seem to understand. Thanks for the advice, maybe I'll try talking to him again.
Paula
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