Abandoning goals and being realistic?
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| Fri, 09-02-2005 - 1:11pm |
Is there ever a point where you decide your goals are unrealistic and you decide to just accept your abilities/strength/whatever at the level you're at right now?
The reason I ask is this... I haven't made any headway with the goals I set out to accomplish in terms of losing more weight. I've been training for about 5 weeks now and have been sticking to my eating plan about that long. My weight seems to reguarly fluctuate within a 5 lb range but hasn't actually changed. It's becoming pretty clear that I'm not losing anything with the program that I'm using. However, I like the program I'm doing. I'm not willing to eat less because I turn into super-cranky gymrat when I don't eat enough. And, I believe I'm getting stronger. It's the weight loss piece that isn't changing. (And no, I don't really think my clothes are fitting much differently.)
So, I'm just wondering if I should accept the weight that I'm at right now. Sadly, I'm not even nervy enough to post it here because it just seems so *high*. But, from what other people have said, they estimate that I weigh about 30-40 lbs less than I do (even when I was heavy, I don't think anyone would have guessed what I really weighed). My husband found a statistic that said that most people are unable to lose more than 10% of their high bodyweight and I've already surpassed that. Maybe my body is just *done*.
At this point, I just feel tired of fighting and striving to reach something that is starting to seem unattainable. Yet, my Type A urge that is always pushing me to be better/faster/stronger finds it hard to let this go because in a way, it feels like defeat (and if no one else here gets this part, I know Jean will).
Thoughts? Comments? Opinions?
Edited 9/2/2005 1:19 pm ET ET by gymrat76

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Hans and Frans!
They were the best..."I am Hans and this is Frans, and we are here to pump you up."
Love it.
I wonder if something like that would help my mom.
You are so right that we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. I never thought about it that way but it's absolutely true. My clients have regularly told me that the Barbie-esque trainers do not appeal to them and yet... in a twisted sort of way, I want to be that person.
You've given me some really good perspective about this, Sol. I appreciate your wisdom and insight so much. (And yes, I could probably kick some serious a$$. :) I may have to print out that post and put it on my fridge or monitor. Thanks again.
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