Three Good Things

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Three Good Things
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 8:42am
This is a take on Kel's idea of patting ourselves on the back.





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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 8:45am

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:05am

I'll do compliments I guess..

1: Last night when I went to Krav Maga class, we partnered up, put boxing gloves on, and took turns hitting the focus mitts. After a few rounds, the guy I was partnered with said, "Are you mad at men today? Geez." I took that as a compliment on my punching power. :)

2: I got a compliment on my outfit the other day, just some comfy cargo pants from Old Navy and a pastel t-shirt, but it made me feel good.

3: The best of all-my 2 year old, who of course said "dada" and "daddy" WAY before he ever said "mama" or "mommy" is now constantly saying "mommy, yay!". After staying home with him for almost three years, I'm grabbing onto this and taking it as a compliment everytime he says it! :)

syd

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:16am

I'm proud of sticking with my hiking by myself. I'm the sort of person who usually wants company for that sort of thing and if I don't have it, I will often not go. But, I'm actually enjoying hiking by myself. On a related note, I'm proud of pushing myself and actually doing a little running on the trail.

I'm proud of myself for sticking to my non-dairy diet since Saturday. It's been challenging but I am figuring it out.

I'm also proud of myself for going to yoga with DH. We've been saying that we should do that for weeks and it's nice to actually be doing it!

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:51am

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:55am

DD has been saying da-da for a couple of months and recently started to understand what it meant.

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 10:07am
Ooooo, just you wait. In the near future he will be beginning or ending every single sentence he speaks w/, "Mommy,..../...., Mommy". It will eventually drive you insane. This is good though since insanity is the only way to survive parenting a teen. ;-)
Soleilune
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 10:50am
oh my god, if that guy had said that to me, i would have been furious. what a sexist thing to say! i would have said something like: "i wasn't mad at anyone today, but then again no one had made a condescending, sexist
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 11:18am

Yeah, I didn't take offense to it, but it does remind me of an issue I've been thinking about, with women who fight (in boxing, etc). Like the connection between anger and the ability to fight/punch effectively...is it necessary for a woman to be angry in order to be able to fight well? Would people have asked a guy the same question? Is there a connection between fighting and emotion?

I just finished a book about women who box, and it explored these issues a lot-pretty fascinating. But I suppose it's a topic for another thread. Maybe I'll start one.

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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 12:02pm

I think there's definitely a connection between fighting and emotion. But in that respect, I don't believe gender is relevant. There's a fantastic book called The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It's a really interesting book that addresses the body's response when it feels physically threatened.

Do I need to be angry to fight well? No. But having a focus certainly helps. I've used boxing to destress and I can ABSOLUTELY feel my anger and my power on those days... The self defense class that I mentioned last week is designed to provoke that anger and it taught us HOW to use that anger and that fear instead of being frozen by it.




Edited 9/27/2005 12:19 pm ET ET by gymrat76
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 12:37pm

he absolutely positively would NOT have said the same thing to a guy. i will bet you all the money in my bank account that he would have never said "gee you must really be mad at men today" if you were a guy.


there are really so many things wrong with that statement: 1) he never would have said it to a man; 2) it implies that you (or anyone) would be mad "at men" in general (and taking it out on him). what the heck does that mean, mad at men? that's a ridiculous thing to accuse someone of; 3) it implies that it is surprising that you, a woman, can hit hard - there must be some explanation for why she can hit hard. i could go on. there are just sooooo many things wrong with it.


in response to kel's comments, it's definitely true that different people respond to aggression in different ways but i don't know how

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