This is an interesting topic because after I read your post, I thought about how the woman that I was partnered with last night at taekwondo told me that my back kick was lethal and I was really proud of that.
For me, fighting well has nothing to do with fear or anger. I actually think that when I am calm I fight better and hit harder because I am more accurate. When I am coaching people at tournaments I tell them to fight their own fight and not let others get a rise out of them. I find that I am not as accurate if I am mad and not as effective. It is a matter of focus and not aggression for me. I can usually take apart an opponent who is too agressive because they are not thinking with their head but with emotion.
oh yeah, THAT'S a great sales technique. i bet he's a top seller at that dealership.
my first instinct is always to fight too, but i often overcome it because i don't want to be inappropriate or counterproductive. intellectually, i know that there is no benefit in screaming at the rude car dealer. usually, i can channel my aggression into positive behaviors. usually.
that reminds me, i had another run in a couple of weeks ago while driving. in dc, it's the LAW to stop for pedestrians in the crosswalk. i was behind a car that turned left, so i was going very slow anyway, and there was a pedestrian in the crosswalk, so i stopped and waved him/her across. the car behind me honked angrily at me for doing this so i gave him the finger. he then tailgated me until we stopped at a red light and then he got out of his car and came up to mine. i opened the window only about an inch and he started screaming at the top of his lungs at me how that was so dangerous to stop in the street like that and i started screaming back at the top of my lungs that it was THE LAW to stop for pedestrians.
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This is an interesting topic because after I read your post, I thought about how the woman that I was partnered with last night at taekwondo told me that my back kick was lethal and I was really proud of that.
For me, fighting well has nothing to do with fear or anger. I actually think that when I am calm I fight better and hit harder because I am more accurate. When I am coaching people at tournaments I tell them to fight their own fight and not let others get a rise out of them. I find that I am not as accurate if I am mad and not as effective. It is a matter of focus and not aggression for me. I can usually take apart an opponent who is too agressive because they are not thinking with their head but with emotion.
Jody
I'm the same way, both verbally and physically.
I'm usually VERY coherent.
oh yeah, THAT'S a great sales technique. i bet he's a top seller at that dealership.
my first instinct is always to fight too, but i often overcome it because i don't want to be inappropriate or counterproductive. intellectually, i know that there is no benefit in screaming at the rude car dealer. usually, i can channel my aggression into positive behaviors. usually.
that reminds me, i had another run in a couple of weeks ago while driving. in dc, it's the LAW to stop for pedestrians in the crosswalk. i was behind a car that turned left, so i was going very slow anyway, and there was a pedestrian in the crosswalk, so i stopped and waved him/her across. the car behind me honked angrily at me for doing this so i gave him the finger. he then tailgated me until we stopped at a red light and then he got out of his car and came up to mine. i opened the window only about an inch and he started screaming at the top of his lungs at me how that was so dangerous to stop in the street like that and i started screaming back at the top of my lungs that it was THE LAW to stop for pedestrians.
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