Off Topic - neighbor parties

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Off Topic - neighbor parties
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Sat, 09-09-2006 - 4:43pm

I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I do. My feelings are kinda hurt. We live in a neighborhood that is normally quiet. Our neighbors are going to have this "huge" party tonight. She just came over to let us know it will be loud and lots of people, cars, music very late into the night. Actually, it sounds like alot of fun. That is why my feelings are hurt. She said they have been planning it for three months. We talk to them occasionally, are on good terms, but were obviously not invited. I really don't know who else around here is going. No one has mentioned it. It's not a neighborhood party, but if it's so huge, there must be a mix of people attending.

I guess the thing that gets me is that we really don't have a social life. I am finishing college, so most weekends are pretty quiet. So it is partly my own doing that we have no social life. Still, I am glad that we have considerate neighbors yet I think it is kinda rude to talk it up and not invite someone. Don't you? Or are my hormones making me too sensitive?

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 1:10am

If your not close friends, or on a social level with them, then no it isn't rude for them to not invite you!


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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 10:42am
I think it was my hormones. In any case, thanks for giving me some perspective.
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 1:37pm
There are several possibilities.It could be strictly a gathering of family , I know ours is huge when we

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 7:05pm
Awww, it does sound like your hormones are taking over. Be glad that your neighbors like you enough to give you fair warning. I love it when a neighbor lets me know that they are planning a big party. I agree that it could be a family get together. Dh has such a big family here that if we have a party, we really don't invite the neighbors. We had a party last year with both neighbors and family and it was just too much. I agree with Laura though that you have to make a move to be social with the neighbors. Warning though, sometimes it can be a bad thing to hang out with the neighbors. I used to live in a neighborhood where we got together once a month to play a game called bunco. If you attended a gathering you had to sign up to host a future gathering. The adults played and the kids ran crazy and loose through the host familie's house. I dreaded that. And the neighbors were so "close" that if you didn't show up at a gathering, they had a group of women that would drive to your house and make you go! LOL! Looking back it's kinda funny but I'm mostly a homebody and like to just hang with dh and the kids so it could be very unpleasant and uncomfortable. I bet if you invite your neighbors over for dinner they will invite you over for something too, and you could end up making a great friend...or enemy! LOL!

 

 

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 9:47am

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I think it's thoughtful and considerate to give you a heads up about the party and to approach you personally like that. I would not expect an invite, especially if I wasn't actually friends with this person. If you socialized with them, hand them over for dinner a few times, went out from time to time, your children were best of friends or grew up together... then yes I'd find it rude. However, considering the fact that you don't have a relationship with this person, I see nothing wrong with how she handled it.

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