Sad mommy looking for advice

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Registered: 09-10-2006
Sad mommy looking for advice
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 12:43am
I'm new here and am looking for advice. My heart is aching so badly for 2 of my 3 children. We moved into a new town almost 4 years ago and to this day they still have not been accepted in this community. This is a VERY small town, only 1 mile square and the cliques here are just awful. They go straight down from the parents to the kids...never seen anything like this in my life!! Anyway...Tonight we went to the towns 91st anniversary celebration and It hurt so bad to see my daughter "ditched" on several occasions and also flat out told she wasn't allowed to play with a group of girls because it was a "4th grade game" (she's in 5th)...this just broke her heart. I just don't know what to do anymore! Even her so-called good friends ditched her and ignored her. I also heard from her coach tonight that one of the girls was talking about her saying she was weird because she got a boys haircut. He was awsome and told her if she ever talked about her again like that she wasn't going to play on his team because he does NOT tolerate gossiping and being mean to teammates. These kids are just so mean and their actions towards her is totally uncalled for and I am at my wits end because it has been going on since we moved here. To top things off my 9 year old son also has the same issues. I thought I raised some really good kids(at least thats what the parents tell me)and it is just so hard to see them continually treated like outsiders. Has anyone ever had to deal with this type of situation? Please let me know...I just want to sit here and cry. THanks in advance for any advice.
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 1:20am

Sorry to hear you and your family are going through this!


Sounds like you live in a cult and not a town!


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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 1:58am
i agree with laura, i think i would toss the idea of moving if possible..ive dealt with it when i was 17 and living in a small town where if you werent born there and raised there, you were not accepted...i ended up lasting there only 4 months, with my grandma who was shunned and she lived there 17 yrs because of my grandaddy..i couldnt deal with that crap..big hugs and good luck!
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 10:09am

If at all possible, I would look in to moving.

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 2:26pm

First I want to say welcome to the board.

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 6:48pm
Gosh, that sounds terrible. I'm so sorry to hear that. I have dealt with a small community before with all the cliques. Our last neighborhood back east consisted of 52 homes and everyone knew everyone. The problem I had was there were no kids my boys ages. They were either much older or much younger. A lot of the time my boys just stayed home and had no one to play with. They actually looked forward to school to see friends. Other neighborhoods were so spread out that parents weren't very eager to bring kids over or to have them over because you couldn't expect a parent to drive half and hour to your house and not keep their kid for a few hours at least. I hated living in this particular place and just

 

 

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 11:38pm

I'm going to circle around this with a slightly different tack...I think it's sort of radical to think of moving just so my kids would "fit in".

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 9:08am

Welcome to the board Skysbuddy. I believe you got some good advice from my fellow boardies. Big hugs coming your way ((((((Skysbuddy))))

Please make yourself at home here. These ladies are the best.

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