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| Tue, 09-19-2006 - 8:24pm |
If you could change something about your tween's personality what would it be and why?
I wish Tegan was more open with me and that she would share things with me more readily. I have to drag things out of her even the little things. I don't understand why she is this way. I envisioned having long conversations with my daughter about what was going on in their lives and that is just not the way it is. Once I finally get something out of her then she doesn't hold back at all. It hurts my feelings.
I wish Kelsey were more driven. She is happy just getting by. I would like to see that change and i think it slowly is. I also wish sometimes she was a little more compromising yet that is also something i admire about her. She has only two or three friends because she says the other girls just all want to be like each other. She does not need a group around her to make her feel good about herself. She is not a sell out and she won't hang out with kids just b/c they are popular, she thinks alot of them are not very nice.
What would you change if you held that power?
Kelly
I wish Tegan was more open with me and that she would share things with me more readily. I have to drag things out of her even the little things. I don't understand why she is this way. I envisioned having long conversations with my daughter about what was going on in their lives and that is just not the way it is. Once I finally get something out of her then she doesn't hold back at all. It hurts my feelings.
I wish Kelsey were more driven. She is happy just getting by. I would like to see that change and i think it slowly is. I also wish sometimes she was a little more compromising yet that is also something i admire about her. She has only two or three friends because she says the other girls just all want to be like each other. She does not need a group around her to make her feel good about herself. She is not a sell out and she won't hang out with kids just b/c they are popular, she thinks alot of them are not very nice.
What would you change if you held that power?
Kelly

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Same here as Tegan. Kristen NEVER wants to talk about anything personal. Its really hard to find out what she's feeling and what's going on with her. She will do anything to avoid talking about anything emotional. But it appears she's her mother's daughter. I also wish she was less of a pessimist and could see things in a more positive light. When she get in a negative spin its really hard to pull her out. Pretty soon everything is horrible and there is nothing good about a situation. So two things I guess. LOL
Great thread Kelly.
I too wish Jessica was more open.
Linda
mom to
Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)
I was that Kayleigh was more organized and on top of things.
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I wish Sami were more of an extrovert.
For my 15 yr old son I'd put my foot in his booty and give him some more DRIVE. He's literally one of the smartest people I've ever met, just to have a conversation with him would leave a person amazed. But he's content to do what he has to do and spend his days pursuing laziness! HAHA!!! If he had more drive he'd make an amazing impact on the world someday...those are NOT my words, they're the words of his teachers and my adult friends.
Luckily he's not a follower at all, he really stands on his own two feet..refusing to conform to the 'wierd' kids at school! HAHA!
As for my 12 yr old daughter, she's also smart but she's such a controlling type A personality that she's her own worse enemy. She can't handle not being best, first, in charge. She's actually started therapy this week to help her change her 'inner voice' and to redirect her anger into positive activites (art for now). Seems the math teacher 'lost' two of her assignments so she didnt' get an A on her progress report..she totally freaked. I want to see her channel her passion positively so she can succeed in life and be happy, not upset over everything like my father-in-law!
I have two loving, awesome kids who are independant and self-sufficient...
Denise
I would change Matthew's controlling nature. If he's not the leader of the group, he simply won't associate with the kids anymore. He has to be the teacher's pet, the most popular, the person who decides what the others kids will play, in charge of the games they play, he's the only one who can change the rules to benefit himself. He does this all the time and I find it to be so irritating. He's so self centered and a little of the above comes from me. I remember wanting to always be the leader of games when I played with friends, but I also took turns. Another thing I would
I wish Hannah was a little more neater with her stuff and bedroom. She's so messy and cluttery.
Another thing is she's so controlling. She has to be in control of everything. Hum? I wonder where she got that from?
The only 2 things I would change about Jordyn is:
1, which she gets from me, is she is a HUGE perfectionist, most of the time to a fault, she get tunnel vision on it and sometimes will get very stressed out and stuff about the smallest of things. You sometimes will get upset if she can't get her writing paragraph done perfectly the first time and has to erase or make corrections to it.
2. Even though she is a gymnast and physically is really strong, mentally sometimes she's a wimp. She will get really upset over some of the stupidest things and get her feelings hurt very easily. I wish I could toughen her up a bit without pushing her down if you know what I mean.
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