Do you make your child wear a jacket???

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Do you make your child wear a jacket???
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:39am
Last night, it got really cool here. Quinn missed the bus this morning so I had to take him to school. (No big deal) At that time it was 45 degrees. Quinn wore his cord jean jacket along with long jeans & a tee-shirt of some sort. And he was still a little chilly until the car was warmed up enough to turn on the heater. Anyway...my friend (Steve) was in the 'drop off' line in from of us. He has 1 child (Rianna) the same age as Quinn (we've been friends since the kids were in pre-school) we pulled up to drop our kids off & out of the car gets Rianna with NO jacket on, a mini-denim skirt (I think it was too short & probably would be against the dress code), a tight v-neck tee-shirt with short cap sleeves. I couldn't help but notice that she was freezing because her girls (nips) were standing out. I was really surprised because last summer, she & her mom went shopping. They bought a backless halter top (tastefully done) & he would not let her wear it. I rolled the window down & said "Rianna! Where is your jacket?!" Of course she just smiled & kept on walking. I should have yelled out "I can see your nipples!" Everyone could see her nipples. That shirt was so tight & it being a light blue didn't help either. BTW...she's a 7th grader.
If she was my child (I am her godmother) she would have at least been wearing a jacket. I have to sometimes remind Quinn to put on a jacket, especially in the morning. He doesn't know the temp out & doesn't know if it's cool or warm. Of course he has enough sense that if he stepped outside without one & felt that it was cool, he would come back in & get a jacket.


Edited 9/21/2006 11:46 am ET by onehappymama

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:54am
I don't make my kids wear their coats, but if I tell my coldy cat dd she may need a jacket, she usually gets one. I let them go outside and see for themselves. However... I do make my dd wear a bra to school.
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 12:28pm

I think a better question would be if I would let my (braless) developing daughter wear a halter top with a short skirt in cold weather.

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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 12:30pm
Jordyn is so darn skinny that she is always cold. Even right now its 65 when she walks to the bus stop, and 90 during the day, she will usually take a sweatshirt or hooded jacket to wear in school and wear either that or a jacket to the bus stop. So we never really talk about it. May be an issue as she gets older, but I don't know. I would not let her go out in that outfit being that cold without a jacket myself.
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 12:38pm
It was a tee-shirt, not a haltertop. (Sorry I was confusing) And she did have a bra on. She's so busty, the bra was probably a thin one & she was really cold. It was 45 degrees.
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 5:13pm
Nah, you were perfectly clear, I was the confused one!
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 5:43pm
I will tell Tegan that it is at least sweater weather and the rest is up to her. To date she has heeded my warning about the weather and has worn a sweater. Kelsey can be more tempermental and she is not always willing to listen to "suggestions" so i tell her to take a coat.
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 5:52pm
Well, living in Arizona, you don't really need a jacket! LOL! But I used to live in Va and it got very cold in the winter. I would say it depends on the age of the kid. Obviously when my boys were younger I would make them wear a jacket or coat. As they started protesting, I would still bring a jacket because I knew it would only be a matter of minutes before they started complaining of freezing. LOL! At 11 or older though, I say it's up to the kid to decide for themselves. If my kid went to the bus stop at 45 degrees and was freezing, I would hope that they had enough common sense to bring a jacket the next day. I would probably give a gentle reminder that it's freezing cold outside but really it's up to the kid.

 

 

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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 5:57pm

Well, thankfully my child hates being cold so I have never had to force th issue. Today I would likely have let it go. She had on a waffle weave hoodie over a tank (to wear the hoodie all day like a shirt, not like a jacket) and if she had not worn a jacket it would have been chilly but I knew it was going to warm up so no big deal. I think it was 40F here this morning. But I do speak up if its inappropriate, like the mini-skirt and tight t-shirt. I would have made her change, wheter she wants to wear a jacket, fine, but not those clothes. Usually when she's resisted I've convinced her to put a sweatshirt in her bag.


She is now leaving the house on her own in the morning so I'll have less control. However I left her coat hanging on the door knob this morning and I saw it was in her bag tonight so she obviously wore it. But in winter, whether she will wear snowpants I can't really say because she'll be on her own and I suppose will suffer the consequences if she doesn't.

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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 9:34pm

I don't normally make her wear a jacket.

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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 8:50am

I require that my son wear clothing that is appropriate to the weather. Today he is wearing blue jeans a long sleeve button down shirt and a hooded/zippered sweatshirt. Now I couldn't get him to zip up the sweatshirt but at least it was on his back. I'm sure if he's cold enough he'll zip it up. This morning the temperature outside was 41 degrees when he left the house. It will be 65 by the time he gets out of school this afternoon.

Now the 8 year old I take care of afterschool is consistantly underdressed. Yesterday he was wearing shorts and a T-shirt... no jacket and the weather was similar to today. If he's dressed the same way again I'm going to speak to his mother about it. Not sure how I am going to approach it with her.

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