Scary Movies

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Scary Movies
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Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:00pm
Do you let your kids watch scary movies or movies that are rated 14+. DDs are at a sleepover and they went with the birthday girl, another child and the birthday girl's cousin (she is 22) to rent a movie. They came back with "When a stranger calls." I hated to be a killjoy but i immediately said "I don't think so." Tegan is almost 13 and Kelsey is 10 1/2. Luckily the mom said no as well. The other child said her mom let her watch it when the mom was going out for the evening and she was home alone. Maybe i am overprotective but i don't think it is necessary for kids this age to watch these types of films. The mom and i took When a stranger calls back to the video store and got another movie that was more age appropriate.
So my concern is what if i hadn't been there? I won't be good friends with all of the parents whose parties they are invited to. How do i let people know that DDs are not allowed to watch thrillers or horror movies of any type?
I know if DDs started watching these kinds of movies they wouldn't sleep properly and they would be quite upset.
Kelly

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In reply to: kellyh33
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:05pm
My oldest son (12-1/2)can watch movies like that. I do read why it is rated and if it is for sexual content then I veto it. He does watch scary movies sometimes with his friends, but mostly likes the sport-themed movies, more than the scary ones.
My youngest is only 9 so he isn't allowed to watch the Pg-13 scary ones yet, but does watch Goosebumps, etc.
 
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In reply to: kellyh33
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:12pm
We're sad - we don't do anything above pg13 even for the adults of our house.

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In reply to: kellyh33
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:27pm
I am not judging but what is worse sexual content or violence? At least sexual content is two consenting adults and it is not hurting other people. I would rather DDs see a little making out in a movie then the slashing and "hunting" of other people.
Like i said i am not asking you to substitue my judgement for your own but what is your thought process?
Thanks,
Kelly
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Sat, 09-23-2006 - 10:36pm
Actually it does sound like you are passing judgment on my parenting decisions. I am not talking about "a little making out", I am talking about true sexual scenes. I know that not everyone agrees with watching violence but my kids have watched alot of war movies (my father is military and they are very interested in history,etc) plus I know that the teenage slasher type movies are much of a phase. I remember as a teenager watching Friday the 13th, My Bloody Valentine, Halloween, etc with my friends. Sometimes it is just fun to be scared and have fun with your friends.
Which is better sex or violence?-well, that is a totally subjective opinion and we all have to make the choices that work for our kids and our households.
 
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In reply to: kellyh33
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 11:03pm

She has never watched those kind or shown any interest in them. I dislike them and refuse to watch them and she seems to have the same sensibilities. We just don't like them. She likes the kind of scary movies like Van Helsing or other "monster" themes like the Mummy, but not slasher movies. Since its never come up with us I'm not sure what I would do. She doesn't go to alot of sleepovers and I know the parents pretty well and know they would not allow that type of movie for younger kids. It really is a personal things. Some kids can watch them and suffer no ill consequences, others (like I'm sure mine would) would be sleeping in my bed for months after watching it. I mean she knows no vampires are going to come and get her at night, but psycho stalkers? Maybe. (in her mind)

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In reply to: kellyh33
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 11:05pm
I am not passing judgement on your choices. Everyone knows what is right for their kids and i know that scary movies are not right for my kids just as you know that sex scenes are not right for your kids. What i was asking you if you had to choose between the two what you would choose? I would choose the sex scenes because i know they would not terrify my girls. Perhaps the sex scenes would make your boys really uncomfortable.
I have no problem with wartime movies. I believe that kids can learn alot from them. What i am against for my girls is movies where it is killing on top of killing for no reason. My mom let me watch "Helter Skelter" and those type of movies when i was a kid and i am still afraid of the dark (I am not kidding, if DH isn't home i sleep with the light on).
Perhaps this is also the one of the many differences between girls and boys. I didn't mean to offend you in anyway.
Kelly
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In reply to: kellyh33
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 11:36pm

I remember this being an issue when I was a kid.

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In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 12:05am

Yep I am another mom that is pretty laid back with movies!


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In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 12:08am
Oh Kelly, now come on!

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In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 12:09am
But the sex scenes are teaching your girls and they are almost making it seem like it is OK to have sex and mess around!

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