Another spinoff question!

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Another spinoff question!
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 10:44am

This is a situation I had to deal with this weekend and was curious how others deal with similar situations.

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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 11:43am
Personally I would stick to my convictions. If it is going to change the whole party to not show the game then I don't think it is fair to ask the parent not to

Linda
mom to
Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)


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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 11:50am

Well, I don't think it is right to ask another parent or child not to view something or play a certain game if it is at THEIR house just because your child is going to be present. Now if it is at your house, then that is different (such as another child brings inappropriate movies or music into your home) you can say "I'm sorry, but that is not allowed here".
You need to decide to either keep your child away or accept what is happening. I think that as our kids age, they have to learn how to stick to their own convictions also.

NOt sure if I answered your question correctly as it was a bit hard to decipher your meaning.

 
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 11:53am
What a great question!! I think it's hard sometimes but you have to go with your gut and stick what is best for your child. I would not allow DD to go to a party that was based on something i disagreed with. I would call the parent and simply say he would be unable to attend and leave it at that. I wouldn't ask the parent to change the theme of the party for my child b/c this is something the birthday boy in question obviously wants and clearly it is ok with his parents.
By allowing him to participate "just this one time" he may think that it really is ok with you and you are opening the door to him saying "but you let me last time." Stick with your convictions!!
Kelly
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 11:56am
I would not ask an parent to change the theme of the evening. I would instead decide how important the restriction is to me. If it was important to me that my child not play a certain game, or see a certain movie, then I would have my child stay home.
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 12:07pm
well said and i agree 100%!
Kelly
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 1:24pm

I would probably keep her home and stick to my convictions. If you give on one thing, then what about the next? I'm the Mom saying "If all your friends jumped off a bridge would you?" I would say to the parent "I'm sorry but Kristen won't be able to come as we don't allow her to watch those kind of movies. Maybe another time." That either lets the parent say "okay, fine another time" or give them the opportunity to change their plans to include your child. I wouldn't ask them to do it, but I'd be very clear on WHY my child was not attending. I would also assume they would not change the plans on my child's behalf but you never know.


You don't always get to do what everyone else is doing. That's just the way life works. For a variety of reasons you have to miss some activities and events. Get used to it.

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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 2:50pm

Here at my house my dc are only allowed to play games that are rated E and T.

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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 10:33pm

Nancy,


I think at this age it is very important to stickt o your convictions!


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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 8:09am

If I truly felt that it was something inappropriate, I would not let her participate.

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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:46am
If it's something I feel strongly about, then I wouldn't let my child go to the party.
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