Well, I think first I'd see if they did in fact have plans to meet - that way I'd know if he had intended to meet up or if he'd just out and out decieved us.
So glad I'm not there YET! LOL! But I guess, I would make sure he was in fact meeting with his friend, and if so I would make sure he wasn't in an accident. I would try calling his cell phone and eventually after he got home or we found him we would find out what was going on. If it turned out that he was lying and sneaking around, he would lose going out with friends, and I can see myself at this point saying, you lose a week for every hour we spent trying to locate you. LOL! That may change by the time my boys are 16. LOL!
One of my friends who does have a teenager, told me that the most effective way she dealt with her daughter not lying was to do "pop ups" at the locations that her dd said she would be. It would be random pop ups and if dd wasn't there she lost her socializing time for a while. If dd was there, she earned more trust.
How embarrassing, I know I was caught as a teenager not being where I was supposed to be!
I would want to find out if there was a miscommunication or if my teen intentionally deceived me about their whereabouts so that they could go someplace that they didn't want me to know about.
he will be grounded no if's and's or but's...if hes driving, he will lose all driving priveledges til he can prove to us that hes trustworthy/responsible...he will lose all entertainment and have some type of job(s) put into effect for a time being, maybe a week, maybe a month..that is something we do not tolerate in our house..its disrespectful and lying..thats a big no no to me
ok this is under the assumption the question meant he did this on purpose and lied to us
Well, I think first I'd see if they did in fact have plans to meet - that way I'd know if he had intended to meet up or if he'd just out and out decieved us.
Too many variables here to answer fully!
So glad I'm not there YET! LOL! But I guess, I would make sure he was in fact meeting with his friend, and if so I would make sure he wasn't in an accident. I would try calling his cell phone and eventually after he got home or we found him we would find out what was going on. If it turned out that he was lying and sneaking around, he would lose going out with friends, and I can see myself at this point saying, you lose a week for every hour we spent trying to locate you. LOL! That may change by the time my boys are 16. LOL!
One of my friends who does have a teenager, told me that the most effective way she dealt with her daughter not lying was to do "pop ups" at the locations that her dd said she would be. It would be random pop ups and if dd wasn't there she lost her socializing time for a while. If dd was there, she earned more trust.
How embarrassing, I know I was caught as a teenager not being where I was supposed to be!
I would want to find out if there was a miscommunication or if my teen intentionally deceived me about their whereabouts so that they could go someplace that they didn't want me to know about.
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Linda
mom to
Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)
he will be grounded no if's and's or but's...if hes driving, he will lose all driving priveledges til he can prove to us that hes trustworthy/responsible...he will lose all entertainment and have some type of job(s) put into effect for a time being, maybe a week, maybe a month..that is something we do not tolerate in our house..its disrespectful and lying..thats a big no no to me
I would first find her and sit her down and hear her out.
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