Make-up

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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 6:01pm
I was wondering, how much make-up do your kids wear? Mary-Claire (9) wants to wear lipgloss, which I don't have a problem with, and eyeshadow, and as long as it's light pink or another light color, I'm okay with that too. But Kiran (12)! She wants the works- eyeliner, mascara, blush, lipliner, bronzer, and God knows what else! I try to emphasize that she's already very pretty the way she is (she really is, not just from a Mom standpoint). What are some thoughts on this? I know when I was about 16, I would put on my make-up secretly at school because my mom wouldn't let me wear anything but what I'm currently allowing Mary-Claire to wear - and I don't want that to happen. Any thoughts on this?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 6:06pm
you might want to sit her down and ask her why she wants to wear the make up. Then maybe allow her to wear a lighter color than the dark colors. And show her how to apply it to where it looks natural not "clown". Show her how much she should put on for her age. Dont let her get away with what your not ready to handle. And explain it to her why you feel the way you do. I know when I explain how my mom reacted to things and how I do not want my dd to react those ways. It usually opens up the door for conversation which is what you want. Offer some childhood experiences and tell her some concequences you had for doing certain things. She what she says or talks about. Good luck.
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Registered: 11-29-2006
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 6:13pm
Good ideas, Missy! I completely see eye-to-eye on the sharing experiences thing- you would not believe how much we've been able to work through because of that! I must admit, she does apply the make-up very well. I just don't want her to get caught up in the "I gotta have make-up or I'll die!" line of thinking. I was in that for a while and I hated it! I'm thinking about letting her wear powder, mascara, lipgloss, and eyeshadow. Does this sound reasonable? She claims all of her friends wear more, but she's probably just exaggerating.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 7:50pm

My dd (almost 12) can wear lip gloss and lipstick (natural color, slightly deeper than her actual lip tone). She's not interested in wearing more than that, and I really wouldn't be comfortable allowing her to wear more than that at her age. I really don't want her to look older than she actually is.

Some of her friends are wearing a lot more makeup - eyeliner, mascara, eye shadow, blusher.

Lynn

 

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Registered: 12-09-2005
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 7:50pm

I think that that definately sounds reasonable. Around grade 7/8/9 the girls wear SO much makeup, especially eyeliner, and they don't know how to apply it and it looks horribly. It really just looks trashy, so I'm glad you'll be stopping her from doing this! What you are allowing is enough for her to fit in with her friends and to feel a little grown-up, but won't give her enough to put so much on that she looks trashy, as so many preteen girls do.

-Nikki


                             
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Registered: 03-01-2006
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 7:59pm
My DD is 12 and is allowed to wear light lipstick /lip gloss (I have veto power over colors and only allow her to buy appropriate colors).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 8:28pm

My DD has a fair amount of make-up but the only day she's worn it this year is the first day of school. She wore a light pink lipstick (she can wear other colors at home or for play), some blush and eye shadow. To be honest, my Dd is too lazy to get up early enough to put it on. LOL


Does your school have a policy on make-up? You might want to check that out. If she does want to wear the works I would be taking her somewhere to learn how to apply it properly for her age (because we all know Mom couldn't possibly know) so that she doesn't look like she should be working a downtown street corner. Someone suggested finding out why. Are her friends all doing it? Does she want to stand out and be different? Maybe there are other ways she can fit in without using it. I don't think I would let Kristen wear the whole shebang next year. Lip gloss, a brush of blush and maybe a hint of pale shadow, but that's enough. But that's my rules, doesn't mean everyone has to follow.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 8:58pm

Kayleigh is 11 and has no interest in makeup other than flavored lip balms.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 10:44pm
If I had to answer straight out, I would say around 13-14 they can start wearing more than "clear" things!

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In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 7:08am

Coming back to mention, I asked my 11 year old what she thought about this, and she said that she thinks it would be appropriate to save the heavy makeup for parties, dances, holidays, etc and keep the makeup light for normal school days and thinks that you should remind your dd that too much makeup can cause breakouts.


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Registered: 05-15-2005
In reply to: lovelymamaof3
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 7:28am
Our rule here is NO makeup until 12, but at 12 it's fair game.

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