anyone's 13 yr old "serious" about gf?

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Registered: 08-16-2005
anyone's 13 yr old "serious" about gf?
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 4:31pm
my son is "going with" an almost 15 yr old girl and he is only 13. although she is very innocent and immature for her age i think. she is very sweet too. she told my son he was her first kiss. anyway, i let her come over the other night and i caught them making out on his bed!! omg!!! i told them to get up and come out of his room. they are too young to be doing stuff like that!!! i don't want my baby to grow up!! anyway, my question is - they seem to argue alot lately - only been going together for about 2 months - but he acts like he has to see her every weekend. she goes to a different school. anyone else's teen act so serious so young? it bothers me. ugh!! they talk all night on the phone.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 5:25pm

Personally I'd be putting a stop to it. She's obviously not as "young" and "innocent" as you think if they are making out. I know you can't probably "forbid" it because that will make it more "appealing". But I would start steering them away from each other. Cut the phone calls. Say a new rule is NO ONE in your family is on the phone for more than 20 min. or 30 min. per night. You have to stick to that too. Start keeping him really busy on the weekends so they don't have time together. Do not invite her over and everywhere they go on the weekend you are too.


This means more work on your part, but sometimes doing the right thing is more work for us too. Its "easier" for you not to go to the same movie they do, not to organize "family" outings that do NOT include friends, but I see this moving somewhere sexual really fast if they were willing to go that far already in your home, what will happen when they are alone. I would just gently start steering them away and hope that the novelty wears off and they move on to other people. To me at 13, 2 years older is alot and girls do tend to mature faster than boys so I think its different for the reverse (even if that sounds sexist).

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 9:40pm

I don't think I would out in out forbid this, as then it becomes the "forbidden fruit" and is more appealing!


I do think there should be rules---I am not sure why he was allowed, at the age of 13, to have a girl in his room on his bed!


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Registered: 05-15-2005
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 9:45am

This is why my kids can't date until they are 16.

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