bedtime...?

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bedtime...?
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Sat, 12-08-2007 - 12:13pm
My stepkids, ages 13,11 and10, are spending the weekend us. Last night we all went to bed at 11pm. Or so we thought. At 3am we woke up to them watching tv, playing video games, and getting snacks. My dh did not act as if this was a big deal. I was schocked! The 11 year old told me, "It's the weekend, there is no bedtime!" I guess this is how it goes at their mom's house. Does this sound normal to any of you? Maybe I am just an old

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: angie_jane
Sat, 12-08-2007 - 12:57pm

What time do they get up then Saturday or Sunday? Are they able to go to bed at a decent hour on Sunday so they can get up for school? Our problem falls when my DD stays up too late Saturday then sleeps too late Sunday then she's not tired Sunday night at bedtime so she doesn't fall asleep until late and then can't get up Monday morning. It starts a vicious cycle.


I would not be comfortable with the kids getting up while we are in bed (and assuming they are in bed). But I would hear them the minute they left their rooms unless you have a very big house, but I sleep with my bedroom door open. I think 3:00 is a bit late, even for a weekend, especially a 9 year old. We do stay up until midnight sometimes, but never much more. But with only one child she doesn't like to be up on her own if I'm not around so she doesn't stay downstairs long if I go to bed.


That said, if they don't seem to have a problem getting back into the school groove Monday morning I guess the time doesn't really matter, but if it sets them up for the whole schedule to be screwy then I'd be insisting on a bit more structure at your house. And its okay for the rules at your house to be different than at their Mom's house. They are capable of dealing with that, after all the rules at school are different than at home, different than at a friend's house, different than in a movie theatre. Its not a difficult concept for kids to handle.

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In reply to: angie_jane
Sat, 12-08-2007 - 4:14pm

3 am is a big no-no in my opinion.

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In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 8:09am

Hi,


I have a dd who is 11.5 & we're battling w/her over bedtime now. She's been staying up reading until 10PM & in my book thats a no, a very big no. She looks tired, acts cranky & generally is out of sorts. So we've put into effect bed at 8 & she can read until 8:30, if she wants to read longer then that she can go up earlier.


I would never allow my kids to stay up till 3AM. It is a big deal it throws there whole sleep cycle off. I would set a time at your house & stick to it.

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In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 8:21am

Here's is 9PM, both weekends and weeknights, with a few exceptions for something special now and then.


She's out waiting for the bus before 7am, so she really does need to have an early night to get enough sleep.


She does not tend to sleep in to get extra sleep on the weekends, so we've just held the same time for weekends too.

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Registered: 12-08-2007
In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 9:16am

My 10 1/2 year old has a weekday bedtime of 8:30 and on weekends, she's in bed at 9pm unless we have something going on.

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In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 10:57am

I don't think 10 and 11 year olds need to stay up all night, and I wouldn't be comfortable with kids roaming the house all night, nor do they need to eat 24 hours a day.

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Registered: 06-15-2007
In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 10:58am
I agree that 3 am is way too late. Not only does that mess up their body clock for the coming week, but I would so not want kids roaming around unsupervised after I am fast asleep!! Especially 10 & 11 year olds!!
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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 8:39pm

We are pretty laid back here on the weekends as well--as long as nothing is going on the next day!


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In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 8:56pm
We are laid back on the weekends about bedtime, actually I'm probably more laid back about during the week than most people here. However I do not have children wandering around my house at 3am! That sounds more like what happens at a slumber party.
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Registered: 08-29-2003
In reply to: angie_jane
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 9:11pm

She can't stay up late on Friday night because she has to get up at 730 on Saturday for gymnastics. Saturday night I let her stay up as late as 11.

 

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