Questioning the existence of Santa.

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Questioning the existence of Santa.
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 8:35pm
Matthew not once has really mentioned Santa this year.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 8:51pm
I don't think he'd be crushed if you told him. He's already starting to suspect, he can't find the logic, he knows its physically impossible and is getting beyond believing in magic. You might drop a few hints and see how he reacts but I'd bet he'll love being in on the secret and helping you. Although Kristen hasn't believed in Santa for a long time, we still play the game and Santa brings something for Mom and Dad too. Not sure when we'll stop but I'm thinking about scaling it back this year.

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 9:06pm
Can you give me some good hints I could put out there?

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 10:10pm

This happened with my 9 year old this year, frankly I was relieved.

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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 10:46pm
I am tired of Santa in the house.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 11:07pm

I'm not sure if you want any more advice or not, but if he suspects you, then I personally think it's past time to come clean.

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 1:59am
I would just tell him, and ask him to help keep Santa magical for his sisters.
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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 6:08am

I agree that it is time to tell, and that when the child is trying to open up the conversation the best thing is to be honest.


At this age, they are taking grief for believing and being made to be the "fool" if they still are speaking out that belief at school.

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Thu, 12-13-2007 - 9:46am

Maybe this will help.


Stacy


We take pleasure in answering thus prominently the communication below, expressing at the same time our great gratification that its faithful author is numbered among the friends of The Sun:



Dear Editor—


I am 8 years old. Some of my little friends say there is no Santa Claus. Papa says, “If you see it in The Sun, it’s so.” Please tell me the truth, is there a Santa Claus?


Virginia O’Hanlon


Virginia, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men’s or children’s, are little. In this great universe of ours, man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.


Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no Virginias. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The external light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.


Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies. You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if you did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that’s no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.


You tear apart the baby’s rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest men that ever lived could tear apart. Only faith, poetry, love, romance, can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, Virginia, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding.


No Santa Claus! Thank God! he lives and lives forever. A thousand years from now, Virginia, nay 10 times 10,000 years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 10:44am

I think my son was 4th or 5th grade when he started questioning me about it.

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Thu, 12-13-2007 - 4:30pm

I think kids just figure this out on their own, or from friends.
I think it's a good idea to say people celebrate Christmas to celebrate Jesus' Birthday, and that's why we give gifts.

Kim

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