AHHHHHH!! Virtual scream! Help!!!

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Registered: 01-06-2006
AHHHHHH!! Virtual scream! Help!!!
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Thu, 01-08-2009 - 3:21pm

I am just LIVID about dh's job and have been for almost two years now and I've COMPLETELY HAD IT! Since three months after he started, his pay has been sporadic and about half of what he was told it would be. Every month we wonder whether he's going to get paid and if it will be enough to cover the bills. Basically, we've been living off a line of credit on the house for the last six months and he gets upset when I suggest we take out more to pay bills and the mortgage. Ummmmm he's not getting paid with any frequency and then it's only about $2000/month and I make about $75/month doing childcare at church. How else are we supposed to pay for food, the house, and utilities? This job has put him through he**. He's found himself hundreds of miles from home with no functioning credit cards (company or personal because he couldn't pay his card because he wasn't getting paid and the company didn't pay its bills either) and no way to pay for his hotel or even cab fare there. He called me and I ended up transferring money from our line of credit to his account and he paid for the entire trip out of our pocket. The company almost defaulted on a loan because his boss was out of town and didn't sign the papers before he left. He once had to pay back tickets and booting fee for a company vehicle because the person who drove it before him had outstanding tickets and it got booted while he had it parked at the airport. I had to go pick him up and bring him home. To top it off, we got an EOB (you know those papers from the insurance company that tell you how much of your medical services they paid and how much you will have to pay) that said they wouldn't cover a service ($360 allergy treatment for Evan) because the premium hadn't been paid. Translation: WE HAVE NO MEDICAL INSURANCE AT THE MOMENT!!! I sure hope nobody gets sick or seriously injured. I will also have to put off some blood tests and my annual mammogram until this mess gets straightened out! This is the second time this has happened.

Every 4 months or so he says he should look for another job but he never gets serious. I think part of the problem is his boss used to be a friend of his and the business would go under if the company couldn't bill for the hours he's charging their biggest client. He and I have talked about the situation before and he insists he's keeping the job for the insurance, hopes of back pay, and for what the part of the business they're building now will bring in the future. How much longer are we supposed to wait???!!!! It's been two years, we've burned through most of his retirement $$, and we lived off savings for the 6 months before this job because he quit a steady paying decent job to be part of some hair-brained internet start-up that went up in flames. I should probably get a job for our financial well being but I am no longer qualified in my former profession and I don't have anyone I can use as a reference. What do I do?????!!!!




Edited 1/8/2009 3:24 pm ET by amibee64
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 3:41pm

No advice but((((((HUGS))))))

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Registered: 12-28-2008
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 3:59pm
Wow... don't know if I have any real advice, but I sure do sympathize with you. My dh had gotten wrapped up with a friend of his & a new business. He went about 6 mo. with no pay, which drove me crazy, but I was working & we didn't have kids then. I can imagine what a ball of nerves you must be! The upside of my story, was that all the backpay was taken care of. Hope your story ends the same. If I was in your situation, I too would be trying to convince dh of getting another job... but they can be hard to persuade....!Good luck & Ihope it all works out for you...soon!
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Registered: 01-13-1999
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 4:17pm

Your husband's boss is using him.

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 5:04pm
((((((( HUGS)))))))))) to you. I can not believe you are still toughing this out. Two years is a long time. Is there any hope for the company at all? You would think that there must be something your dh can say. Does his boss even know you two are struggling this bad? Maybe its time for another heart to heart with dh. lay those bills out for him. Let him figure out where the money is going to come from. hang in there we are always here for you.
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Registered: 01-15-2007
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 5:28pm
Oh gosh.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 6:23pm

Wow, I'd be livid too! I feel bad for you guys. Does your DH see what's going on? What does he say about it? Does he think the situation is likely to improve (I doubt it). You guys definitely need health insurance, not to mention the financial strain it's taking on you. . . It really DOES sound like your DH is being used! Maybe you can talk some sense into him about looking for different work.

Hugs and prayers for you!




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Registered: 08-17-2007
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 10:23am

Sorry you are going through this.

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