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| Fri, 01-23-2009 - 11:50am |
WARNING: this is sad so if you're not ready for it, feel free to move on to something else. I've written here about my aunt with the brain tumor in the past. I spoke to my mom yesterday and she's just getting worse and worse. They arranged for home hospice care for her remaining time and everything this group does it designed to make the patient more comfortable so that's GREAT. My uncle will get a break from caring for her when they are around and she'll be more comfortable. My parents went to visit last week and my mom said she wasn't doing well at all. Her braing just wasn't making necessary connections. She picked up a fork to eat a cookie... She and my uncle for several days about the home care nurses and on the day they came, she asked my uncle why they were coming (which should have been obvious to her), was she getting better or worse. He told her worse and the two of them talked for a long time. They decided she wanted to hang on until spring so they could sit out on their porch in the sun together one last time.
This just kills me inside. She is SOOOO strong and SOOOO smart. She took herself from teen pregnancy, an abusive relationship in her early 20s, through single motherhood and welfare, through earning her CPA, to a successful retail business. My mom said my aunt is the smartest of the three kids in her family and my mom went to Northwestern (not an Ivy League school but nothing to sneeze at). It's so hard to watch this happen to someone so bright, so ambitious, and so caring. If I remember one thing about her it will be this... When I announced I was getting married, she was the only member of my family that was genuinely happy for me. She gave us the only engagement gift we received and in the card she wrote "Love is always worth celebrating."

Sorry to hear your aunts condition isn't improving...so hard to see those we love suffer. I hope she isn't in any pain? Sounds like you have some great memories and I hope those provide some comfort to you & your family during this difficult time.
I am so sorry to hear this. It is just so sad, I agree. I hope she is not suffering much, and I hope she does make it to Spring. It must be extra hard to watch someone who is so bright and motivated deteriorate cognitively.
I kind of understand what you're going through. My MIL died in 2004 from metastatic breast cancer, that also went to her brain in the end. She was one of the most giving and caring people I have ever known, and like a second mother to me. I still miss her every single day.
I hope you find some kind of peace with all this. I know how hard it is and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and especially your aunt. Feel free to come and cry on our shoulders any time. I really do understand how you are feeling and I know it's so hard.
Big ((((hugs))))
Sarah...mommy to Janessa and Julian
Hugs, Ami, I am so sorry to hear tghat your aunt is not doing well.
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