Im so sorry your going through this. I know its hard. Some men just dont get it. I am so sorry you feel so bad. Dont sit in the corner its not good. Come here and vent. Maybe someone will have a suggestion that will work for you. Counseling is a good idea. Maybe if the two of you can learn to talk to one another it will be easier. Hang in there. Keep us informed. And if you need to come vent. we are all here for you.
Hugs Chelle, I am so sorry that you're going through this personal crisis. I hope that your Dh agrees that counselling would be a good idea and lead to a better understanding.
Hugs to you....stay strong & stick to your guns. I think if he goes to counseling w/you then that is a good sign. You need to do this for yourself not just the kids...you know the saying, if momma ain't happy then ain't nobody happy.
((((Chelle)))) I am so sorry you're going through this. That's really tough. It sounds like maybe he's been conditioned (From his upbringing?) to maybe not deal with a lot of things with those whom he's close to. That can really make you feel like your feelings are insignificant. And if he thinks he knows best, it must make you feel like he doesn't think your opinion is worth considering.
I think counseling is a really good idea. I would also suggest just talking to him. Is he willing to talk things out with you? Maybe schedule a Date Night if you can, so you can have time alone, just focused on each other and undistracted. Then pour out your feelings to him in a non-threatening way, without making accusations ("When you don't listen to me, I feel such-and-such" etc). Tell him he is your best friend and your confidante, as your husband, and it's important to you to be able to share these things with him. If you can't sit down and talk to him for whatever reason, you might even try writing it all out in a letter.
I will say a little prayer for you guys, and I'm sending you hugs.
And of course this is board business! We're all friends here. Our lives are important to each other. Please come here and vent whenever you need!!
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Chelle (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))
Im so sorry your going through this. I know its hard. Some men just dont get it. I am so sorry you feel so bad. Dont sit in the corner its not good. Come here and vent. Maybe someone will have a suggestion that will work for you. Counseling is a good idea. Maybe if the two of you can learn to talk to one another it will be easier. Hang in there. Keep us informed. And if you need to come vent. we are all here for you.
(((((HUGS)))) I hope things work out for the best for all of you. Come here and vent/cry whenever you need. We're here for you!
Wanting to wave a magic wand and make everything better...
Ami
Hugs Chelle, I am so sorry that you're going through this personal crisis. I hope that your Dh agrees that counselling would be a good idea and lead to a better understanding.
We are all here for you.
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(((Chellle)))
I am praying...I just wish there were more I could do for you!
Hugs to you....stay strong & stick to your guns. I think if he goes to counseling w/you then that is a good sign. You need to do this for yourself not just the kids...you know the saying, if momma ain't happy then ain't nobody happy.
Sending you positive thoughts...
Grace, Speed & Power....Girls Lacrosse
{{{HUGS}}}...so sorry you're going through this.
I understand the eggshells thing!!
((((Chelle)))) I am so sorry you're going through this. That's really tough. It sounds like maybe he's been conditioned (From his upbringing?) to maybe not deal with a lot of things with those whom he's close to. That can really make you feel like your feelings are insignificant. And if he thinks he knows best, it must make you feel like he doesn't think your opinion is worth considering.
I think counseling is a really good idea. I would also suggest just talking to him. Is he willing to talk things out with you? Maybe schedule a Date Night if you can, so you can have time alone, just focused on each other and undistracted. Then pour out your feelings to him in a non-threatening way, without making accusations ("When you don't listen to me, I feel such-and-such" etc). Tell him he is your best friend and your confidante, as your husband, and it's important to you to be able to share these things with him. If you can't sit down and talk to him for whatever reason, you might even try writing it all out in a letter.
I will say a little prayer for you guys, and I'm sending you hugs.
And of course this is board business! We're all friends here. Our lives are important to each other. Please come here and vent whenever you need!!
Yes, a lot of our problems stem on the fact he is the youngest of 10 children.
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