PG-13 for dd's 12th b-day party

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PG-13 for dd's 12th b-day party
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Fri, 02-20-2009 - 10:09pm

DD is turning 12. She's planned a Movie / Sleepover party at our house.


The movie she chose was Mean girls. When I got it I then realized that it was PG-13 for sexual content and some teen partying, recommended for over-14.


I straight away told her she'd have to choose a different movie. She agreed to and had another family-friendly movie which is on the way. Then she told me that the school counselor recommended the 1st movie!! I was so surprised!


WWYD?

Thanks,


Rainbow


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Rainbow

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 02-20-2009 - 10:12pm

Letting your own child watch PG-13 movies is different than letting other kids watch it.

I personally would either get approval from every mother or have her choose a different movie.

I took Aly & her friend to see a PG-13 movie in December (Aly was about to turn 12 and her friend had just turned 13), but both girls had already seen the movie so her mom approved it (they wanted to see it together, and I had a gift card for 2 of the tickets).





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Fri, 02-20-2009 - 10:14pm
My almost 13 year old has seen it and so have most of her friends.HOWEVER if you are showing it at a birthday party you really should ask the parents of all the girls.It does have some questionable parts in it.Plus what I am ok with another parent may not be ok with You are better off sticking with a PG movie for a b'day party sleep over.I could say the movie is fine,but you might not considerate approiae for your dd.You may want to watch it with your dd if she wants to see it,or better yet watch it first yourself to see if you are fine with it.

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Fri, 02-20-2009 - 11:15pm

I'd go with a more family friendly movie when entertaining other people's kids.

 

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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 9:05am

I would contact each parent and get approval, if even one says "no", then do not show it. I do this for every single party I ever give with multiple kids. I honestly never show a movie to a child without parental approval. My dd was shown parts of Mean Girls at age 8 and you bet I spoke to that parent about it!

Each family has such different guidelines for their family, clearly the counselor has his/her own opinion too, but I do find it odd that a school counselor is recommending movies to kids without knowing (caring?) about the age guidelines. It's not something I would personally make waves about, my kids know that each family has their own individual rules and they realize and accept that our rules trump anyone's recommendation.

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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 4:43pm

I'd go with the PG movie as well if I've got other kids coming over.


Last year my girls had a joint party.

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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 4:44pm
I agree with the other posters. DD
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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 9:51pm
I think at a party, I'd definitely err on the side of having something that noone would object to. Now 13 yr old DS has watched R rated movies because he has an older sister and also a father who will take him to movies that I would not take him to. But only a few years ago, he would get very scared at horror movies, so like the OP, I would be mad at someone who let him watch a horror movie, and if the movie is on, what kid wants to call attention to themselves by saying they don't want to watch it? I haven't watched Mean Girls in a while and I don't remember anything too bad in there, but PG 13 is one of those weird things--sometimes I see a PG 13 movie and I'm surprised at the sexual innuendo in there.
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:36pm
I'd also definitely go with something more family-friendly.
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:44pm

I think you did the right thing in changing the movie selection, Mean Girls is not a fun party movie, and really isn't something that I'd show kids without parental approval.

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