Gender disappointment, what helped you?

I guess all of us here have been through getting the "opposite news", and had to deal with feeling disappointed and devastated and guilty. I wonder if anyone has anything to share that HELPED you cope or deal with it better? I know we mention a lot of things people say that make us feel WORSE, but has anybody ever said anything or given you any advice that made you feel better? Or did you come up with some thought or philosophy, or pamper yourself, or something like that that helped you get through it?