K - gotta get it off my chest......
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| Mon, 02-24-2003 - 7:59pm |
K - gotta get it off my chest......
I'm in a melancholy mood this evening. One of the first calls I took this morning was with a woman who has done an annual party where I work for as long as I can remember. I could tell right off she was upset about something so I asked her what was wrong. She explained to me that she came in to work to find out one of her co-workers had passed away this weekend along with her daughter. Then this woman almost lost it on the phone. She just kept saying, "Sammi, we lost six this weekend. SIX!" Then she apologized because I didn't know what she was talking about. I corrected her. I explained that I knew exactly what she was talking about and she was stunned. We lost 6 lives to Domestic Violence in the Salt Lake Valley this weekend. V was curious to know how I had known that and I told her a bit of my story only to find out she works very closely with a group intent on educating people about DV.
It was really quite an upsetting weekend. The woman and her daughter had been dead for over a week before her husband admitted it to a relative who called the police. They lived in a neighborhood and everything. Why didn't anyone notice she wasn't doing her daily rituals like going to work? One of her co-workers called to ask about her but was not alarmed at the husband's response, (Of course we know lots of people who would fall for this guys excuse). But it's alarming. 6 souls in three days. (two incidents were homicides/suicides.)
This stuff happens. It's real. And it could happen to any one of us. Please stay safe. I don't want to read about anyone in the paper. I'm just upset about it.
Thanks for letting me vent and get that off my chest. Sammi
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I know what you mean........
I don't recall if it was last week or the week before but we lost 6 people in one day. A man killed his wife, his girlfriend and his three children and then he killed himself. It's so very sad and then yesterday here in Houston another woman rean over her husband but he survived.
Mari
Oh, Sammi, I'm so sorry! (m)
The sickness will never end as long as men protect men, and women help them.
I know your college route is DV. Do you think you might try doing a little work with this woman and her group? It might help you feel a little more powerful.
Sammi, were these deaths within the church?
Remember dearheart, you make a difference each time you share your story. You are a success story and can inspire others not to back down, give in or give up. Keep talking, girl. People may not act like they're listening, but the ones that count are.
cl-aStarSeeker
No...m
Not within the church (so far as any news reports) - the problem with that culture is usually child molesting. However, one of the lines in the paper that got me was something to the effect of, '...as the police arrived on scene, they heard gunshots. Assuming they were being fired upon, they hid behind their cars while he dragged his wife's body into the backyard and shot himself.' I mean, I can't really blame the cops for doing that, but it is still awful they couldn't prevent something from happeneing. I guess I'm really still just confused and shocked.
On another note, the County Attorney held a press conference this morning flanked by volunteers with the shelter, etc. basically putting out a "war on Domestic Violence". But as we are all aware, once the killings slow down again, it will go on the back burner.
I tried to talk to V today - I want to work with her and her organization. I'm going to email the reporter of yesterdays article and try to talk to him as well. I sometimes never know where to go, but perhaps these deaths have created an opening whereby I can at least try to keep it on the front page and keep it an issue. Every cloud has a silver lining and maybe, just maybe, I can help make a silver lining out of these tragic deaths.
Thanks for the support! Sammi
Sammi
Ugh, you DO understand! Thanks n/t
Sammi
This might sound heartless (m)
but it's how I feel and I won't apologize for it. I'm glad that SOB shot himself. Saves the world from another load of crap, money wasted in the judicial system, and saves more victims.
I'm sorry this woman had to be martyred to rid the world of a sick, vicious predator.
Write letters, Sammi. Share your story. Send people here! Communication stops Domestic Violence and forces these vicious killers and abusers to take responsiblity for their acts. It lets people know they're not alone and it is NOT their fault!
We're wit'cha girl!
cl-aStarSeeker
LOL...m
Well, you'll definitely like this one. Monday SL County Sheriff's were called to a home where a woman claimed her 34 year old son was choking her. Deputies had the residence flagged because they'd been there for DV with him before. So they sent lots of cops. Well, he decided to become combatitive with the cops, grabbed a baton and went to smack the female deputy. So, she shot him. Unfortunately, she got his abdomen and he's expected to live.
I need to find out who she is and take her for target practice.
OUCH! Now THAT was heartless! LOL
Sammi