Parental reactions sober vs drinking
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|Wed, 11-05-2003 - 8:29pm|
Just some differences in my reaction times to things in my life the longer I am sober.
My DS is 6 feet 3 inches at 14 years of age. Of course he is handsome, he is my
son after all, LOL. But, as children are, their physical maturation can involve
such delightful things as acne. He has a mild case, but as we all know, one
"zit" is one too many. We work on keeping it as controlled as can be till his
hormones level out.
A new boy, brought a digital camera to school, which is strictly against the rules.
He took pictures of various boys, under the premise of friendship. Wrong! Some
others told him to take some of the pictures and post them on a web site with such
nice names as volcano face, (my son), Pot head (a boy that is not)., looser (another
new boy), etc. My son called him and told him to remove the pictures as he would be
"sorry" if he didn't. This brings a smile to my DH and my faces, as son wouldn't know
how to "fight". The pictures were removed., apologies made. I wanted to call the boys
folks, but, didn't. These boys are in private school, and there are some policies
with web sites, etc.
I cannot tell you how hurt my son was. This isn't an issue of grooming. Just some teenage
pranks that they thought were "cool".
My point, (sorry this is so long) is this. When I was drinking, I tended to have
a "trigger" reaction to things such as this. I would have picked up the phone, and
called these parents. Then I am sure I would have proceeded in a fashion to inform
them of this injustice in a not so nice way. Granted, I wouldn't have called them
while drinking,but, the programming that drinking creates in our bodies would have
taken over, and done the talking.
Naturally, my heart breaks for my son. But, this is something that life presents to us.
It is how we deal with it that makes the difference.
Even my DH was surprised by the more "rational" me, but no one more surprised then me!
I have learned to take it slower, think things over before reacting, and then deciding on a course of action.
Hate that this was lengthy...I just wanted to share something that is an added benefit
to soberiety that almost came as a suprise to me.
Thanks for letting me share!
Peace to you all,