Thursday's Field Trip (m)

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Thursday's Field Trip (m)
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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 9:50am

Thursday's Field Trip (m)


Okay, pack your lunch, put on your most comfortable shoes, and grab your boxing gloves going out the door (well, maybe not). This week we’re going to find out what kind of fighter you are. Click on the link below and discover your arguing attitude:

http://quiz.ivillage.com/relationships/tests/fighting.htm

Have fun and please come back and post your results below.

Mac

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 10:26am

Avoider- Thats ME!!!!


Avoider

You're a yielder, which means that you attempt to resolve conflicts by committing what Dr. Turndorf calls psychological suicide. You sweep yourself under the rug by surrendering on issues, even those of importance to you. Why do you do this? You may fear confrontation or abandonment by your spouse. You may be afraid to make your partner angry. Or you may simply want to be liked, which is directly tied to low self-esteem. You try to convince yourself that if the problem is ignored it will go away. But problems don't disappear, warns Dr. Turndorf. In fact, they get worse because your silent acceptance of your partner's behavior will just cause him to continue acting this way, which will hurt and anger you. You need to learn how to address problems directly in order resolve them.

Have a mystical day,

Jade

Please Pray and Support O

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 10:46am

Listen Buck-O!


"You either get rid of Betty the Squeeze Doll or..."

The question "Is your husband as romantic as a stuffed doll" killed me!

Well, this is NO surprise...

Talker You're a born orator. And most of the time, your talking skills manage to calm conflicts before they turn into all-out fights. You're not one to walk away from an argument without fully explaining your feelings -- and getting your partner to spill too. Being so open is great, but if you're finding that your partner doesn't always "get" you, it may be because you're talking too soon, and possibly too much. If your partner is hurt, angry or feeling defensive, there's a good chance his ears won't be as open. Not everyone is as ready to talk all the time as you are. Wait until you're both calm and focused to discuss your problems. Also, don't force him to open up -- that will just lead to another argument. When he's ready, he'll talk.

GWAD, I hate it when they dish it straight up on a platter!!

Good day, girls! kat

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 3:06pm

Talker (nt)


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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 5:51pm

Listen honey, we've got to talk...talker here too. nt


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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 7:37pm

Exploder...so thank goodness (m)


I don't fight much!!!

Mac

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 8:24pm

LOL How often are these things ever right?


Have a mystical day,

Jade

Please Pray and Support O

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 10:54pm

Really Mac, there was one called Exploder??? No Way, REALLY?? What did it say?


That's just bonkers!! I'm calling "HANGING CHAD, or HANGING SHINGLE, or HANGING MARMALADE...whatever! BOOOOGUSSSS!!

Take it again!

Well...if it comes up a second time...maybe you better get your buns to that YOGA class ASAP!! Life is too short woman!

Hugs~OOOHHHHWEEE~that was ME hugging YOU! kat

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 10:59pm

Anyone who takes on a Board Name like...


mediamom is OBVIOUSLY a talk, talk, talker...Were you on the debate team too?

I just hate it when my hubby says, "YOU TALK SOOO MUCH!" Hey, if I didn't talk as much as I do, cobwebs would form around hubby's body...H-E-L-L-OOOOOOOOO!!

kat

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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 11:35pm

Got Me All Figured Out, Huh ? (nt)


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Thu, 01-31-2002 - 11:48pm

Yes, there was...it said (m)


"When angered, you tend to lose control, often screaming, ranting and sometimes becoming verbally -- even physically -- abusive. In response, your mate has two choices, explains Dr. Turndorf: He either becomes a doormat or he attacks back. In the latter case, physical violence often results. If this is common in your household, you and your partner may need professional counseling to help calm your fighting style."

Now before you start feeling sorry for my "mate" keep in mind I only scream when he screams at me. Of course, it's not very often so I'm not sweating it and I promise not to beat him up!!! LOL

I did look into Yoga, Kat. It looks like something I'd benefit from but I'm still studying it.

Hugs,

Mac

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