My friends child passed away today...

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My friends child passed away today...
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:53pm
We are devasted and very sad. He never emerged from his coma and apparently had pervasisve brain damage with his brainstem being severly effected. I watched them pull into the drive late this afternoon and just lost it. The thought of coming home without one of my children like that...I can't even begin to imagine. I've decided to take my AS son to the visitation and not the funeral. Thank you for all of your suggestions in regard to this. The next few days will be very difficult and tiring. To top it off my DD broke her elbow lastnight jumping off of couch cushions that were piled three high. We go to a specialist in the morning to see how severe it is. In the broad scheme of things, though, a broken arm seems very small. Regards, Vicky
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:58pm

((((Vicky))))

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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 11:25pm

(((Vicky)))

I am so sorry to that family. That is just so horrible and sad. I hope and pray they are comforted in this time. I just don't even have words to express. My prayers are with the boy, your son, the family, etc.

Also sending hugs for your dd. Broken bones still hurt alot. I know it seems to pale in comparison but it is still a traumatic thing for her so sending loads of feel better hugs. I imagine it is even tougher for her now with all the other stuff going on.

Renee

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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:28am

Dear Vicky,

I am so terribly sorry for the family, you, and your son. I know the next few weeks are really going to be hard.

I think your idea about going to the visitation is good. It will give Chase a chance to start to say goodbye without the sensory confusion, I hope, of a funeral. But this hurt is going to take a long time to heal for all of you.

Take care of yourself too, you have the double burden of dealing with your own sadness and grief as well as that of your son.

Sending you lots of hugs and prayers. I am so sorry.

Love,
Katherine

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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:43am

Vicky,
My deepest sympathy for you and your friend's family. I have been praying for all of you. I can't even imagine the pain they must be going through. My heart goes out to you all. Hugs to your dd as well. Poor thing. Take care.

Love,
Jen

 

Jen

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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 1:10pm

I'm very sorry to hear this. I can't imagine how that would feel. It makes me think I should appreciate my children even more. I'm sorry you are going through this terrible time and I will also be sending thoughts out for the family.

LR

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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 3:08pm
I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend's child.

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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 9:57am
Thank you all for your kind words. My DS now says he doesn't want to go to the funeral home and I'm going to respect his feelings. He has an intense fear of skeletons and while explained to him that it would be his friend's body and not a skeleton he just is too worried. We are going to plant a tree in his name instead and have a little ceremony of our own. Thank you again. Vicky
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:16am

My heart breaks and my eyes are welling up with tears just thinking about it. No parent should have to lose a child.

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 6:52am

My prayers go out to them.

I hope your dd is doing ok.
Samantha

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