Waste of time IEP

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Waste of time IEP
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 5:02pm

Had Dave's transition plan meeting today. What a waste of time. They just love to sugar coat things. They say how well he is doing, but total forget to mention until I bring it up that we had to have a talk 3 days ago about his running off from the group when walking in the halls. and about his not listening. Lots of other stuff they like to forget too. Everything is just hunkey dorey and he will do fine in K. The have short term memory.

Because of all the medical testing we are doing, I brought up again about Dave's regressions and the first thing the teacher asks is "Is there something going on at home". Yeah, he had an EEG and it was way ABNORMAL and he is going through tests to see what the problem is. THAT is what is going on at home! Why do they always make those comments that just hint at "what are you doing wrong". UGh.

I had just told others at the meeting about the EEG but in the 20 minute meeting they had scheduled, me and the SLP where the only ones there one time so we had to keep repeating stuff. ya know, I had 20 minutes you could at least be on time.

They think everything will just go dandy for Kindie and he has basically nothing and I just didn't have the energy to fight it. RSP consult 4 times a year, behavior support plan that won't even apply to the schedule in K and SLP consult 3 times a year. I figured the school he is going to is great and will be more supportive. If he starts having trouble there I can address it there since I can never get anywhere with the preschool without a fight. Then I find out the one RSP that I love is likely leaving.

WHATEVER! I am just at a big fr---gen, whatever. Just like I have said before. When all is said and done, more is said than done.

Renee

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In reply to: rbear4
Sat, 06-11-2005 - 6:14am

ive given up with professionals and totally see what you're saying.

ok its a different situation, but my 21 year old brother is close to suicide BECAUSE no doctors, or social workers, or other professionals are listening to what we tell them...

because HE says hes fine to THEM oh low and behold they dont have to do anything.

keep at them!!! dont let them tell you its all ok, cuz its obviously not.

(((hugs))) to you for being a great mom.



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Registered: 01-19-2005
In reply to: rbear4
Sat, 06-11-2005 - 11:16am

Dear Renee,

That sounds really maddening and I am so sorry. All the medical testing is so stressful for you and Dave and to have it all coming at the IEP time of year and with school ending. I also hate that "is there something going on at home" thing. It's about as subtle as as a mack truck!

You deserve a break today! I hope you were able have a few cyber chocolates, if not, here's some great Godiva! Goes great with a nice cyber cabernet sauvignon!

Like you said, at least the school he is going to is good and even though the one person you like is leaving, if it is a good school and they already know your family, you should be able to get somewhere there.

Thinking of you,

Katherine

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Registered: 06-25-2003
In reply to: rbear4
Sun, 06-12-2005 - 10:16pm

((((((Renee))))))

I guess it could have been worse. They could have declassified him.

But not much worse. How disrespectful they are! I know it is standard practice to try and push everything back on Mom, because mamy mons have so much self-doubt that that s**t *works*. Good for you for not taking any of if.

Good luck, keep pushing and you will get the services Dave needs sooner or later. Hopefully sooner.
Good luck with everything.

-Paula

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Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: rbear4
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 10:10am

((((Renee))))

~ Chelsea
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In reply to: rbear4
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 7:44pm

Renee, that just stinks.

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In reply to: rbear4
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 8:48am

Well, it is because of my involvement with the regular elementary school that I didn't fight it there at the preschool level. The school is great and I am very involved so I just want out of the preschool.

I am just tired of fighting with the preschool people. These are the same folks that said Mike didn't need an IEP, then just before he graduated preschool suggested I medicate him or he would likely need a special day class in the future. Then when I told these same teachers of his diagnosis when he was in 1st, they gave me the big "we thought so". HELLO If you thought so why didn't you qualify him in preschool and get him help then. He had severe social, behavioral, and sensory issues that they actually SAW at school daily, but because he wasn't language or cognitive delayed enough, he didn't qualify. They have a very narrow view of autism there and think they are the cat's meow in that area. They are good with classic preschool-age autistics and run a great TEACCH classroom, but really are clueless when it comes to higher functioning and older kids.

It is funny that even the elementary school personnel don't have alot of respect for them. It is the teachers from this preschool program that are the autism specialists for the district. They teach in SDC classrooms for 2 days a week and consult to elementaries the other 3. I have had lots of elementary RSP teachers and such tell me that the consulting is useless because these consultants don't understand elementary school or high functioning ASD's. They either recomend nothing or things that are not feasable in a elementary classroom. That is when they show up at all since the are "so busy".

Renee

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