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| Wed, 06-15-2005 - 8:04pm |
Just need to post it somewhere and tell someone about the yucky day for Mike so I can just move on with it. It was a wonderful day for Cait, but I will post that elsewhere. I want to get the yuckies out so I can enjoy her successes.
First, when getting Mike from school I learned from his aide that he didn't get to go to the 5th grade program because he was in the middle of a 2 hour tantrum. He threw chairs. The works. He never got aggressive to people and they didn't have to use any emergency procedures, but this is the worst he has been since October. All over not wanting to do some assignment. I tried to talk to him but can't figure out why, but that isn't the whole reason. I know it is an end of the year thing. But, it is sad that he did it at all. I was hoping that those days were gone. It was a slap of reality that he still deals with these issues of impulse and rages and will for a very long time.
Then I just pulled out an assignment from his backpack from a few days ago. It is Titled "Time Capsule" and has kids list their favorite things. SOme of the answers were just depressing.
My best friends are - he crossed out "friends are" and put in "friend is" then added the name of a boy from his last school that he hasn't played with since kindie. Same boy who in 2nd grade refused to invite him to his bday party despite inviting the rest of the class.
Someplace I would like to visit is - My house
Today I feel pretty good because of -nothing
the best thing about me is -being tall
I can't wait until - nothing
the best thing about 3rd grade is - nothing
I am happy when - I'm alone
There were some good ones about favorite bands and such. I did like one answer alot.
I can tell a secret to - my mom.
Renee


Aw, I'm sorry. That is a yucky one.
But as long as he can tell you his secrets, brighter days are ahead.
Cathy
((((HUGS)))) what a hard day! I hope Mike has better days when school is out! Weston feels the same way-- but when asked about friends he always puts his brother, Warren down! and He also has the same thoughts about being alone and being at home. He just isn't comfortable any other place.
hope today is better!
Betsy
(((Hugs for you and Mike.)))
Samantha
Dear Renee,
So I wrote you this beautiful, thoughtful reply earlier today and ... I NUKED IT! AAAUUUGGGH!
Anyways, the jist of what I said, much more eloquently 'cuz I had more time to wax profanely (but now I gotta run to take Malcolm to therapy and then his first meeting with other campers and counsellors for his 1st mainstream day camp this summer...) WAS ...
Remember how far he's come. One blip does not a total relapse make. Your son is learning how to deal with stress and anxiety. It has been since October that he's had big episodes, that's a LONG time. Now that his schedule is changing from the situation that has worked so well for him, he is flipping out and rightfully so. BUT he will make it though this and you are finding good solutions for his skill level to be able to grow under less stressful and therefore less toxic (to him) conditions. That's what works. We challenge them as it is appropriate for their particular development and ability, so their intelligence, self awareness and social skills continue to develop.
Thinking of you both,
Sara
ilovemalcolm
Renee,
((((HUGS))))) Your post made me sad!!! That's how Nathan feels too.....he's happy when he's alone too. Nathan's also been having a hard time since school ended. The last couple of days have been filled with tantrums, crying, extreme anxiety (ABOUT EVERYTHING), and the constant need to "tackle" Tyler from every angle!!!!!
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I'm going thru the whole "schedule changing" thing here too. Here's a glass of virtual wine!!!!! Cheers!!
Michelle