Just wanted to say "Thanks"

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Just wanted to say "Thanks"
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Sun, 06-26-2005 - 8:12pm

I just wanted to say "Thanks" to everyone who posted replies to my note about Cassian seeming more "autistic" lately. It really helps to have so many moms of ASD children say they have seen similar things in their kids. Thanks also to those of you who had another child after having your ASD child. It helps a lot to hear that you managed this hurdle and that your ASD child seems to have benefited from his/her younger sibling.

I have actually been feeling pretty positive about how our home life has been going, despite Cassian's regression. I am more organized than I was when Cassian was in school, adn we are getting a lot done. I feel like I am homeschooling and running an in-home therapy program again. It feels good to be back on top of things.

My health isn't great. I have gestational diabetes, and my back keeps going in and out from a previous injury and the weight of the pregancy. We are all rushing around trying to get all our projects done before the new baby arrives, so the house is in disarray too.

Anyway, I just wanted to say, "Thanks for the support and well wishes." You are a great group of ladies.

Suzi

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 9:24am

I'm sorry to hear you have gestational diabetes. Please take good care of yourself.

LR

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Wed, 06-29-2005 - 8:17pm

Hi Suzi,

I've really been MIA lately. We've got lots going on, here. We're moving out of state in 2 months and life in general has been hectic but I still check in from time to time to read what's up with everyone. I just wanted to respond to your post with my experiences with Vaughn since I always thought our little guys were somewhat similar. I swear, I go through times when I think he was misdx'd. He'll be doing so well that I think he's just a little behind since he was premature. Lately, he has been interacting well with kids, asking for playdates, using "nice" talk, etc. Just as I begin to question AS at all it hits me right between the eyes. Usually after a big change, (school letting out, joining the pool club with lots of new kids to meet, a weekend at Gramma's). Being an only child with AS, he thinks I "belong" to him and has a really hard time waiting or asking appropriately for things. DH yells at him more when he's disrespectful to me which ups his stress and puts his behavior in the toilet. Calling me "stupid" or saying "shut-up" under his breath has replaced hitting me during a tantrum but now we're working on that, too.

I try to structure his day but it's not the same as at school. He's the only one and he knows that my day is centered around him. I actually dozed off during floortime with him the other day because I am so drained. I think also he has become much more self-aware. He gets angry when the neighbor can climb the jungle gym better or run faster. He often calls himself "bad" or "dumb".

I just wanted to tell you that if I could, I would love to try for another child, but we haven't been able to concieve. I think it would be great for Vaughn to have a sibling even though it would be tough at first for us. You are going to do a great job with Tristen and Cassian and I wish you the best through this tough time.

Shelley

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 10:22am

Anytime! Hang in there!

I had a very complicated 2nd pg, so I can relate to what you're going through.