Grr people can be so difficult!!!!!

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Grr people can be so difficult!!!!!
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 2:01pm


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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 3:37pm
It really is draining sometimes. In fact, and this is kind of sad, we are avoiding the whole sports experience for that reason right now. The emotions you have to go through are tiresome and a day in our pool with my kids is much more relaxing. When he is older and a little more emotionally secure we'll give it a shot. Even being around family can be stressful. I have a SIL who drives me insane. She thinks I'm overprotective and pushes my son to try things he is very tentative about. With these kids you have to be overprotective because they don't plan well or in Chase's case, have the ability to think in terms of consequences. Sorry you have to go through this and good luck. Vicky
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 4:07pm

You know, if it wasn't so angering at the moment, you'd almost have to laugh in her face. I think the minute I heard "make them normal" I would not be able to not crack up the minute she said it, truly. It's that ridiculous. Yes, forcing them to be normal is a far better idea than compassion and gentle guidance. heheh.

Yeah, it's a bummer people get spoonfed ideas from the tv (at best) for what they think ADHD or OCD or any "ABC" is and make "solid" judgements from it. Teaching people to stretch their brains is very challenging and you get to the point where you're just too tired of doing it for the millionth time.
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Sun, 07-03-2005 - 4:30pm

My 9 y.o. son, (PDD-NOS) plays baseball. He is an excellent 3rd baseman but this past year we ran into a large problem. Though he could literally hit the ball over the fence in practices he refused to even swing the bat in a game. His reasoning? He had figured out that with the level of pitching in his league he could make it to 1st base 2 out of every 3 times up to bat IF he just didn't swing. He also obsesses over certain things, especially rules. It is a rule that you cannot get a strike, (his self-imposed rule), so he is too afraid to swing for fear that he would break the "rule". It's very distressing. The only thing that saves him is that his math is correct, without swinging he will walk 2 out of 3 times.

One thing that makes it very hard for him is when people are loud. Has anyone ever been to a little league game? Parents cheer very loud. He did have a few freak outs but not bad. One time though there was this mom who wouldn't stop yelling at him, ok, she was cheering him on, trying to encourage him to swing the bat, but it doesn't matter to Nate, he hates it the same. I told her it bothered him, she wouldn't stop, so finally Nate turned around and screamed, hands covering his ears, "I need you to shut up!!" Then she was mad at him for speaking to her that way.

We do have great moments, like when Nate skips to 1st base because he's been walked and is super happy, or when he's standing by 3rd base looking like he's in another world and the ball flies his way and pop! up goes his hand and he catches it. I'm just happy he'll do it. It's the only "social" event he will agree to participate in. He has 1 more year at this level and I'm sad. I know he won't be able to handle the next level and it will be yet another thing my son loses.

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