Slipping academically and...kid vent
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| Fri, 09-16-2005 - 10:33pm |
Cait has held it together for the first month of school but things are already starting to slip. Her math/science teacher emails grades weekly as well as provides access online. Today she failed her math quiz. She had been getting an A average so far but it was all review and stuff easy for her to comprehend.
I don't know her Language arts/social studies grades yet but what I have seen there is cause for concern. I have emailed the teacher requesting her grades. Just waiting. I hate waiting.
And BOY OH BOY is the autism bug rearing it's ugly side lately. Total meltdown today where she was ripping up her sisters magazines in her room. She hasn't had one of those in a while. I am hoping it is just PMS.
Mike is having a rough week too. We just found out thier therapist doesn't think they should go to her anymore but to a group. Only the group I don't feel is appropriate. Mike just didn't take it well and is a bit nuts lately. Overstimulated/hyper or angry.
Calgon take me away!
BTW Asperger girls and PMS - DO NOT MIX!
Renee


Life is such a roller coaster with kids on the spectrum -- up one minute, down another.
Pat
Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response. --
Nobody mixes with PMS. It should be outlawed.
Do you think it's a transition/new to middle school thing, or an indicator that something is not quite with wit her program?
Or could it just be that she's in love....?
Of course the therapist situation isn't helping. I wote a huge ranting e-mail about it. (I was very creative! no bad words) but the iVillage gremilns got it, and I was to PO-ed to type another.
-Paula
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(((HUGS)))
middle school is rough! I'm sure she's still trying to find her way through all they throw at them and all the confusion of changing classes, hormonal issues, friend issues, and all the rest of the middle school changes. Our kids have a harder time than others, they want to fit in but they don't get the social cues that other do, they even miss it w/ their teachers and these teachers don't know how to take our kids most of the time! My oldest is now in 8th grade and finally starting to "get it" in the middle school sense. He has a nice group of guys he hangs out w/ (took him all last year to find them) and he's starting to understand that his memory and intellect will not get him through, he has learned that studying is necessary, that he's got to write things down and he has learned how to deal w/ his teachers. Thank goodness he doesn't have to deal w/ the PMS! we'd be a total basket case!
Just keep doing what you're doing, get through one day at a time.
oh, and my almost 12 yr old, nt dd has been PMSing for over a year w/o the M, I'm wondering if we'll just have the PMS w/o any relief forever!
Betsy
Boy do I hear you! I think its the stress of school that really brings out the worst in the aspergers! I cant even imagine adding PMS to the mix! I've noticed a big change in Trevor since school got rolling. Already he has a paper due today, it was supposed to be 2-3 pgs. on a trip or event that changed his world view. I dont even know if that is a concept that he can get. I'm really confused on how much to involve the school as far as his diagnosis goes. PArt of me thinks there's not much they can do, he aleady gets extra time for the processing delay and I'm not sure what else they can do. Did I mention his paper is barely half a page, and he just couldn't think any deeper or more descriptive. I tried to help but he just became more and more frustrated. I really hate this part. UGGH!
Amanda
Yeah, you should try to at least involve the school. That is one thing is that without the study skills class to work on her homework with the aide that was in class with her, the aide to be in class and help her find her stuff, understand the directions and stay on task, and the modifications, Cait would be failing badly.
No way she could do a 2-3 page paper like that without loads of support, help and modifications.
It still isn't perfect, but without the support she would be totally lost. I just found out yesterday that this map project Cait had been working on for over a week at the beginning of the year supposidly wasn't accepted because she forgot one step. I don't know the whole story yet, Cait just tells me she wouldn't take it. Probably not the whole story as Cait didn't seem to understand it all anyway. Something about it not being outlined so it wasn't on the wall. She says the teacher wont take it, but it never came home.
But if something can happen over something as simple as following directions for making a map, how on earth is she going to make it.
OY!
Renee
I had a similiar incident last year. It's hard because you dont always know the whole story. I know I need to invlve the school, last year we has a PPT and they basically blew me off, that he is one of the top student, very high CMT scores, high DRP ect... My issue is with all that shouldn't he then be on the honor roll. NOT, that being on the honor rollis all that important, but that was my argument. He's so high in intellegence yet the majority of the kids did make the honor roll, yet he was not one. That to me indicates a problem, of course at that time I only had a diagnosis of anxiety and OCD ( I just got the Aspergers diagnosis this summer), but the whole thing left me with such a bad feeling. Its like he's getting by, so thats okay. Well, I disagree.
Amanda
Renee,
Sorry to hear things are rough. Going throught the same thing here. And Kyle's teacher had the gaul to suggest he may be starting puberty! No way, I'm not ready.
Hope you hear back from the teacher soon+++
Samantha
Oy, yeah. Puberty I have discovered is living h-e-!!
Still havent heard back adn the poor kid is having a heck of a time with her homework tonight. She has an essay to work on for social studies. Today she was supposed to brainstorm and fill in the graphic organizer. Well the teacher gave them the organizer and one that said what to put in each area. For instance Intro - Topic sentence, main idea, hook sentence, etc. Well instead of brainstorming her essay, Cait simply copied "topic sentence" etc. The exact wording of what was on the one the teacher handed out. She told them "Use this to fill in your graphic organizer" I tried to explain but it just caused a meltdown because I am wrong. That doesn't even include the math troubles.
So off I go to email the teacher again! Lets see if I get a response this time.
Renee