What would you do?

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What would you do?
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Tue, 03-21-2006 - 5:35pm

Cait had a math project that was due last week. She had been working on it for a month but I hadn't done it with her because I have been working on making her and her school responsible. Well she had lost most of the materials and hadn't finished other parts. She worked on it for 3 hours that night and in her SDC class the next day. less than 1/2 was finished when she turned it in.

I looked her grade up online (the grades the teacher uses to determine thier report card) and it was 71. I got a sheet home today in her binder that has a grade of 21. Obviously the teacher miss copied it when recording it into the grading program.

I have the rubric sheet with what she accomplished adn the grade of 21 for the purposes of her IEP so do I contact the teacher and let him know of the error or do I leave it as is? She already has a low C in the class and with how he grades, this will definitely pull down her grade significantly.

I have already contacted the school about the project itself and how they messed up with her. I am pretty much seen as a pain in the tush mom over there. For good reason. I have to be a pain cause they obviously are fairly useless.

So would you leave it as is or would you report the wrong grade?

Renee

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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 8:31am

If you have a hard copy of the real grade I would just hold on to it and not say anything. You can pull it out in the future if you need to. You've already addressed the real issue, them dopping the ball with the project.

Samantha

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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 10:01am

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Edited 2/19/2008 9:28 pm ET by littleroses
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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:04pm

Pretty much my thoughts on the matter when I really sat down and thought about it.

I have always prized education highly, however, I have to admit having SN kids changed me a bit on that. I still think education is important but grades are not. Learning life skills to be independent members of society and a work ethic and trying thier best has taken its place. Honest I don't care if Cait gets a C or an A as long as she is learning and trying her best. I would rather her learn how to organize a project and complete it so she can learn to organize and complete her bills than to be able to tell me what percentage of her class liked golden retrievers.

At anyrate, I told them about the mistake.

HOnest, it came down to honesty. One thing I try to teach the kids with life skills is honesty. Whether she got a 21 or a 71 as long as she put forth her best effort I don't care as far as being angry with her and what I think of her. But I do want her to be honest and 21 is the grade she was given. I thought if she found a wallet with $20 would I want her to return it or keep the money since she could really use the money. I would want her to return it.

I am still miffed with the school that they don't get it. I was told that maybe a low grade would teach her a lesson and motivate her to try harder. I was told yesterday that when she forgot field trip money that since she forgot 2 things in a week it was reflecting badly on her. They just do not get it sometimes.

They have all the right words when I call them on it but it just hasn't really really hit home with them. They really don't comprehend the extent to which this is disability and not just a lack of motivation.

Renee

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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:15pm

There is a great post on Schwablearning.org about responses to teachers/IEP team members I think you should read. I know there are some responses in there that would be perfect. http://www.schwablearning.org/message_boards/view_messages.asp?thread=14922

Samantha

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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 3:25pm

Those are awesome Samantha. I am going to bookmark that. You may want to post that separate so everyone sees it.

I use some of those but not all of them. I think my DH would appreciate this one to so I am going to forward it to him.

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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 7:37pm
Renee,
I can see your problem but I have to agree honesty is the best policy!
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In reply to: rbear4
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 7:39pm
I also think you did the right thing by telling them about the mistake.

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