Divorceing with PDDNOS child
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| Fri, 03-24-2006 - 9:36pm |
Hello all,
I am in the mid stages of a divorce. I have a 7.8yr old daughter with PDDNOS/SID and more, and a typicla 2.8yr old son. I have been married for 14 yrs., 21 yr total relationship, and caught my husband in an affair in September and I filed for divorce.
I am being forced to sell our home, and relocate with the kids. We do have some equity in our home, not much though. I am paying the attorney's fees, as he is going Pro Se. So I will end up losing all my equity to pay the attorney.
My question here is, has anyone been in the position with a Disabled child that the courts award more assets to the custodial parent? I will have to find a 3 bedroom home, because putting my daughter into a condo would be hell. And I would not be able to hang her itinerate swing either. I am currently going to night school, and am not employed, but will be in December. I live in NJ and rent for a 3 bedroom is about $2,200/+ utilities. My attorney estimates child support & alimony to be $2,400 permonth.
I don't see how with the size of housing, type of housing, that I have to have for my daughter that a 50% split is fair.
Any input would be greatly appreciated!
Cris

((HUGS))
I don't have any good advice for you because I have never gone through a divorce but I just wanted to send some hugs your way because I'm sure you need them right now. I hope you stick around because this site is very helpful and all the moms are very supportive of each other.
Teresa
You may need to consider more options. Possibly room with the younger one and let your daughter have her own room. You will have to sacrifice in the immediate future, but long term I am sure things will get much better! Good luck to you, and HUGS!
Hi Cris! I'm Christie. I divorced my DS's dad almost 6 years ago.....best decision I ever made. I live in Ohio. I did not collect alimony.....both of us worked (at the time) and we made around the same amount of money. He kept the house and I got custody of only child.....he did get visitation. I carried all the health insurance on son (and still do.....actually since I no longer work, my DH - son's stepdad - carries the insurance), I paid for all daycare expenses and I did get child support. Here in Ohio, support is determined by income. I was getting almost $600 a month but he never paid it regularly so he still owes me what is in arears. When I first moved out, my son and I rented half a house (2 bedrooms, fenced-in yard, close to ex).....it wasn't great but we did fine with it. After 2 years, I rented a whole house.
Lately, my support has gone down for numerous reasons (I no longer work so I no longer have to pay for daycare or before/after school care, Ex lost his decent paying job and went on unemployment - courts decided to base his child support on what he made in unemployment) so I am currently getting less than $200 a month.....basically nothing.....doesn't even pay for co-pays for son's therapy.
I wish I had something better to share with you but this is my experience.
Hang in there,
Christie