I blew up
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| Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:28pm |
I had had enough and I blew up at my boys just a bit ago. Then I realized it was time to come and decompress a bit. I hate when I do that.
The boys were hyper all day. They had an extra day off of school due to protests and such in our area over immigration laws. I ended up watching my friends children for a couple hours because she had an important meeting she needed to go to. And I forgot Mike enzymes today. He was off all day and I had errands I had to run but he absolutely could not leave the house and it wasn't worth pushing it with all four kids by myself with him like that.
Tonight we decided to go out to dinner and that went ok. Then we ran one of the errands to the pet store because it was the most likely to be successful for him. Well all the way home they were off the walls hyper. Dave just loves to keep him going and is being a real brat lately.
Got home and trying to get them to do pajamas. I was in thier room with them using heavy blankets. Warning them they had to try to self regulate and help or they would lose priveledges. Mike tried on and off but mostly they would not/could not listen and finally I couldn't take anymore and I just lost it on them and yelled huge and stormed out of the room.
THEN they clean thier room and are totally quiet for the next 15 minutes. I hate that it takes my losing it to get them to listen. Now I they are done and out here near me and they are starting in again.
I will NEVER forget enzymes again and I think we will just stay home alone with no stimulation.
Renee


I'm sorry you had a rough day. Don't feel too bad though. We all loose it now and then. HUGS
Samantha
Dear Renee,
Big big ((((((((HUGS))))))). I often think of you with your 4 kids, 2 Aspies whenever I am tempted to think I have too much on my plate, not that THAT will make you feel better, but I can't imagine how you can handle it day after day. And I blow up sometimes, too. But having only one has GOT to be so much easier than 4.
Malcolm is also responding to the enzymes. I can really see a difference in his ability to process and not get as stuck and angry with transitions and not getting what he wants. He still struggles, of course, but the QUALITY of the struggle is just much, much less. I think he will also be taking enzymes for some times to come. Do you give them with everything he eats or just a certain number of times a day? I've been giving them with everything wheat or milk, but that is only a few times a day as we were basically wheat and dairy free. But now he likes dairy yogurt alot and string cheese, wants to eat those things all day!
Anyways, I am thinking of you. Of course you don't want to yell at your kids, but hey! You are only human, and you have a breaking point!
Hope today goes better,
Sara
((((((((((Renee))))))))))))
Sorry about the day you had. I know you hate to lose it like that but I don't think it's all a bad thing:
Kid have to learn there are limits and boundaries. They have to learn to read other people's reactions, and to respond accordingly. To be born to a mother who never, ever lost it would ultimately teach them a wrong lesson and leave them unprepared for life in the real world.
My sister oft tells this story: My Da used to get a tic in his left eye when he was getting mad. We would push him up until we saw the tic, and then stop/scarper. So one day, Sis is in a friend's house, and decides to give the mother some attitude. So Sis is there, being naughty, watching for the tic, so she would know when to stop. Of course, it never came, and Sis was sent home packing with a flea in her ear!
-Paula
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I am so sorry Renee, I know exactly what you mean though. Aren't they angels when we blow our stack? I am sure we have all done that then feel bad afterward, I know I do!
It has been ages since I have been here. Still no leader here?
(((HUGS))) Don't be too hard on yourself......we all have those days......it totally amazes me how fast our kids can freak out with such slight changes to their schedules (like a day off school or missing enzymes).
Hang in there.....(((HUGS))),
Christie
((HUGS))
We all have those days!
Teresa