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| Mon, 04-16-2007 - 1:31am |
Poor Victor. I wanted to go see the movie 300 today. Now obviously I can't take Victor with me because he can't handle R rated movies at all, and can't hardly handle PG movies. I won't take Bryanna to those movies because to tell the truth, I think she's a bit on the spectrum herself, and has no emotion toward violent acts at all.
Now, Victor being the older brother has it in his head that he should be allowed to babysit his little sister. We had a complete meltdown because the LAW says he has to be 12 to babysit. Then while I was at the movie, I got a call that Bryanna was sick so I came home ( only missed last 5 min) and found out that Victor had thrown a fit with the sitter and turned the temperature up to 80 degrees. Poor Bry was dehydrated. My fault, I thought if I hired one of the kids friends big sisters to watch them that it would seem more like a playdate and less like being babysat. Luckily the sitter is willing to come back again. ( God Bless Patient Teenagers)
Then it took an olympic battle to get him to take a bath tonight. I did give into the bath instead of a shower and that prolly what made it so difficult.
Needless to say my Sunday evening was interesting.

Oh man, this is such a tough age with this kind of thing. Mike was so angry at the beginning of the yaer when I had a respite worker come to stay with him.
We have just started letting the kids stay briefly alone if cait is here to babysit (she is 13 in a couple weeks). But I still won't let them stay alone for long enough for a movie. Mostly it is for quick trips to the store and for the 30-45 minute overlap between my leaving for class and DH getting home from work.
At any rate, this is a tough time anyway because kids consider themselves "too big" for babysitters and yet are not big enough to stay alone. Heck, I know if ours was a typical family then I could leave them longer, but since my oldest 2 are ASD I am pushing it with this.
The only reason we have done it is because we have to teach the kids independence so we have done this but we had to do loads of social stories and other autism preps to get to this place.
Ah what a life.
Renee