Need to leap outtta the box
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| Sun, 08-19-2007 - 6:18pm |
Here I am 32, (where the f' did that happen?), with three kids (love them all), but I still feel like I'm an angry 17 year old! I fight for my kids, get them what they need (am blessed with a fabulous dh who understands to the best of his ability), but I still feel like I'm crawling beneath my skin. I will never be the suburban soccer Mom (thank f'n God btw) but I feel soooo outside the box because of that. Today was fine, just slow and laid beck, hence the ramblings I suppose. I have this hankering to go get my nose re-pierced (removed it when I had to work in an Episcopal school), and to reshave my hair and look at the meaning of my next tattoo (yes I have two others). I dunno, I just don't want to be lost in the excrement of my family's needs, kwim? I want both.....to be Mom galore as well as ME!!!!!!
Right over it now,....still may get the nose pierced again....what do you think shave the head again??? hmmmmm
Dee
Edited 8/19/2007 6:40 pm ET by roanmom

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I just thought I was crazy. mom's aren't supposed to want tatoos and body piercings. Mom's aren't supposed to go out drinking at all hours. However I want to do these things, and occasionally do. Don't get my wrong, my kiddo is first at all times, but darnit there are times I really just want to go be a silly 17 year old and get a piercing and tattoo.
I had a tongue ring and have wanted to get it back for a few years (took it out when I got married, "good married girls don't have that") I want to get a tattoo (have had it drawn out for several years).
I'm glad to know I'm not crazy nor a bad mom. I'm just human and needing to express myself.
And while I'm at it. . .with all the issues our kiddos face and we face for our kiddos is it any wonder that we want to "rebel"
I may just get that tattoo now. thank you for that.
Dee,
I wanna tell you what part about you is my favorite. It's the "I wanna be me, and don't care about how anyone else thinks about it" part.
I love it when people think outside the box, and make decisions about themselves that make "THEM" happy. I always am somewhat of a Rebel, and I tend to see the way society looks at things, and promptly does the opposite lol. In my mind, society is soooo often wrong.
I love your peircing's, your shaved head look and the tattoos you sport. Your saying hey world I'm me and I'm not ashamed of it :).
I really like strong people like that :).
Lainie
Dee
It's like redefining yourself. You love your kids, no doubt about that, it's YOU get lost in the shuffle. We tend to loose our idenity in the thralls of life.
I say do what makes DEE happy---f*ck everyone elses opinion.
I'd pierce that nose and shave your head....
Heck I'm searching the next tat I'm going to get, it's what makes me happy.
Hugs
Nora
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Oh Dee......I'm so there with you! I say go for it. I just turned 33 this past week and I never really went through a rebellious stage until I had kids. DH wanted to know what I wanted to do for my b-day. The only thing I could think was sleep and everyone to leave me alone so I could paint. And I wanted a tattoo......I've been wanting one for awhile now. It's not that I'm afraid of pain (I had two kids w/o pain meds...etc, after all) I just don't know what to get! I've been working on that for years now! LOL I keep sketching and sketching without anything jumping out at me. I think I just need to take the plunge and contact a good tattoo artist for a brainstorming session.
I'm no soccer mom either. I always feel a outside the "mom" world a bit, yet I don't really fit in with the single, childless artists crowd either. Most people think I'm weird. I joined a mom's club and everyone is pretty cool. Much less "soccer mom" than the group I was in when Sam was a toddler.
I say go for it Dee. I've been trying to convince my best friend to get a nose ring; she's been wanting one forever. It would look great on her prominent English nose. She's going through this same phase too. Her kids are older 11 and 9 and she's getting a divorce too which adds loads to the table. We'll probably go get our body art together.....if we can line our schedules up!
Let us know.....I want pics!!!
Chrystee
You rock! I guess I didn't get the memo that said all moms have to dress, look and act exactly the same. I am soooo glad I didn't! If you want a nose ring, get it. Only you know what is right for you. I really want another tat as well. You really got me thinkin' about it now. I was gonna get a tramp stamp. But have decided against it. Just gotta figure out a new local now. I guess hair is totally a personal choice. I wouldn't shave mine, it is too much of my identity, but it has been pink and sometimes purple a few times! I think as long as we are good, responsible moms, we don't necessarily have to be old fuddy duddyies. We can be fun, exciting moms too.
Carey
Funny for my 40th last month I was going to do something, like get another tat,
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Hey Dee,
Well I thought you looked awesome with your head shaved so I would vote a definite yes on that and I absolutely love love nose rings. If I had a better looking nose I'd be all over that. I did partially shave my head much to my dh's dismay. He's very very conservative, but thinks he's such a rebel. Not. He would be horrified if I pierced my nose. I'd love to, but again, I hate my nose and just can't see calling attention to it. I love gold hoops in the nose.
I've never felt like I fit the soccer mom thing either. I'm turning 36 and I too still feel like I'm 17. Where the hell did all the time go. : )
I'm voting for the shaved head and nose piercing!!LOL.
Jen
Jen
Dee, go for it! you're only young once.
I did the shaved head thing 2x, once when I was in college, but I only shaved the sides and left the back long and the top was spiked-- it was the 80's. and Right before that I had cornrows and 1/3 of them I dyed pink. I also had super long finger nails that were painted shocking red or purple. Right before Martha was born I had it REALLY short-- not shaved but only about 1/2" to 1" long and spiky.
I am now much more of a flower child. I don't fit the mom image but I'm more of the all natural girl w/ long hair that hasn't been cut in a year pulled back into braids, jeans or skirts and thongs w/ tie dyed t-shirts (made myself) and never any makeup. Works for me. and I don't look like the typical soccer mom-- oh, well.
Betsy
I'm thinking that maybe the desire I had late last week to go blow $100+ on
Well, while my head isn't shaved, my hair sure isn't conservative! So you know, I'd be all about seeing you shave your head again. And I'm right there with you on the tat. I haven't been able to decide what I wanted "next", so like Paula, just haven't done it. But if I find what I want, I certainly will.
I couldn't be any farther away from the world of soccer moms...and that's probably why I don't have any IRL friends. But if having IRL friends means giving up my personality, no thanks! I'm much happier listening to indie music, doing theatre, watching NASCAR and drinking good bourbon. LOL
Be who you are...I adore you!
Amy
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