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| Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:35pm |
This just gets better and better. I need to give a little background info here first. We live in a neighborhood of pretty closely packed houses. We get along ok with everyone and everyone has been pretty understanding of Bill's AS.
I've been noticing lately that all of the kids & parents have been getting together and Bill's been increasingly excluded. He's almost 9 so I generally let him go out and play with the kids on his own while I check on him and try to work in the house. My neighbor came up to me today and said that she's been meaning to talk to me about Bill's behavior. All the kids Bill plays with are quite a bit younger as there are no older kids in the neighborhood so this I believe is a problem as well. Anyways, she said that Bill's behaviors have become unsafe and that he's not listening as well to her and her husband as he once did. I could feel my cheeks turning beet red and I was trying to hold back the tears. I explained some of the recent sleep problems we were having and explained we were contacting Bill's pdoc etc. She basically gave the impression that Bill was being a pita. I then said that I would keep Bill pretty much over on our side from now on and she agreed.
In my mind I know they are entitled to their opinions and if they don't want their kids to play with mine than that's their perogative...but it just breaks my heart. I have to now figure out how to keep ds from looking out his window at the 4 kids next door while they playing in their pool or going on their inflatable waterslide. This really sucks. I wish I lived next to you guys.
Jen


Oh Jen, I am so sorry to hear this, but with everything else going on, it makes sense that he is having trouble there, too...
Do you have to give the other kids up completely? Can you organize your time so you can take him over there and be there to be in charge of him, take him home if he can't stay regulated? Being isolated and inactive isn't going to be good for him, either. I would save your working-around-house time for when he's watching TV or on computer games, etc.
Just my thoughts. I have had periods of time where I really had to have one of us or one of Malcolm's ASD pals parents in charge just in case...
Sara
Hi Sara,
Thanks so much for your reply. He has two girls across the street that he plays with as well that are a bit older and there mom is way more relaxed. I will be accompanying him out to play if he plays with them again, but I got the distinct feeling that the parents weren't really interested. I feel so bad for my little man. I work from home, so I can't be outside as much as he'd like. I'm not sure what to do about that yet as I can't really afford to stop. I'll probably try to have the kids over here where I can intervene. He's got one really good friend who has very similar issues to ds's. His mom is an absolute saint. She gets it kwim? I'm sorry I'm rambling here. I'm generally not so thin skinned, but for some reason this just felt like a punch in the gut. This has never really been an issue before so I guess it kind of took me by surprise. I'm so glad I've got this board to come to. The first thing I did after I talked to my neighbor was come here and vent :)
On another note, his psych. did call back and although he no longer takes our ins. he offered to lower his rate so that we could afford to see him again. I thought that was really kind of him.
Jen
((((((Jen))))))
I'm sorry you are going through this. At least summer is almost over and you can get back into a more normal routine.
I think inviting the kids over to your place is a great idea. It will give your kids that socialization and give you a chance to observe the behaviours and correct them (regardless to whom they belong, KWIM?)
I wish we all lived closer. We do have
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I'm off to buy my powerball ticket!!LOL
Jen
Jen